Tigmafuzz
10-18-2012, 11:06 AM
I give advice to a lot of people pretty regularly and most people seem take my advice like the word of a sage. How often do people come to you for advice?
Do you give it to them?
Do they actually take it?
Also, venting thread. Share instances where you've tried to help someone (and you know you're giving good advice because it's a topic you either have much experience with and are knowledgeable in or it's something you've successfully helped many people with before) and they simply REFUSE to take your advice out of stubbornness or even just plain stupidity shortsightedness.
I was trying to help a friend get a guy interested in her, because she thinks he's cute and sees him a lot. She's told m about their previous conversations, so I know a lot about the guy. The problem is that not only does she seem to pay zero attention to what the things people are saying actually mean, she basically has no idea how to get him to think of her in a "more than a friend" way. So I tried to explain to her how to make things go a little smoother with him. Our conversation, verbatim:
Well, he already pretty much told you exactly what he likes when he was describing his exes and his friends. He seems to like girls a little thicker and has a thing for biker chicks and girls that seem like trouble, so stop eating nothing but vegetables and dye your hair dark red. Trust me, he'll pay more attention to you.
Uh no. I'm not going to become a completely different person and stop eating vegetables just to win the win the affection of some random guy I think is cute lol
Completely different person? Come on. First of all, your entire personality is not comprised of your appearance. Second, it's minimal effort to meet someone, compared to the trouble some other people have to go through. And third, how could eating healthier be a bad decision in any way? It's something you should do regardless. Women =P
I know right :P I don't mean my personality I just mean I don't want to have to be totally physically different to go out with him, and how is not eating vegetables healthy? lol
Vegetable aren't the only healthy food in the world lol. Besides, I didn't say stop eating vegetables entirely. I said stop eating "nothing but vegetables." You're not going to get a healthy weight by eating vegetables alone. And you aren't going to become "totally physically different," either. You know what changes physically in this case? Practically nothing. Aside from the hair, all I'm asking you to do is better yourself as a person overall. And the hair is a matter of personal taste anyway; just try it and you might actually like it. There's a social phenomenon I forget the name of, but basically it can be summed up with the phrase "dying your hair blonde can make you act dumber." Maybe seeing the way he acts around you when he's slightly more interested will make you react to BE more interesting. Trying new things isn't objectively bad. And if you aren't willing to step out of your comfort zone a little and drift into the deep end a tiny bit to reel him in, maybe you should just cut the line.
Aww more fishing metaphors :3 also you talk a lot.
And you're petty <3
I know :3
How could a person seriously recognize a problem (and even the causes of that problem) and not take steps to try and fix it? Or even consider doing something differently to change the situation? :freak:
Do you give it to them?
Do they actually take it?
Also, venting thread. Share instances where you've tried to help someone (and you know you're giving good advice because it's a topic you either have much experience with and are knowledgeable in or it's something you've successfully helped many people with before) and they simply REFUSE to take your advice out of stubbornness or even just plain stupidity shortsightedness.
I was trying to help a friend get a guy interested in her, because she thinks he's cute and sees him a lot. She's told m about their previous conversations, so I know a lot about the guy. The problem is that not only does she seem to pay zero attention to what the things people are saying actually mean, she basically has no idea how to get him to think of her in a "more than a friend" way. So I tried to explain to her how to make things go a little smoother with him. Our conversation, verbatim:
Well, he already pretty much told you exactly what he likes when he was describing his exes and his friends. He seems to like girls a little thicker and has a thing for biker chicks and girls that seem like trouble, so stop eating nothing but vegetables and dye your hair dark red. Trust me, he'll pay more attention to you.
Uh no. I'm not going to become a completely different person and stop eating vegetables just to win the win the affection of some random guy I think is cute lol
Completely different person? Come on. First of all, your entire personality is not comprised of your appearance. Second, it's minimal effort to meet someone, compared to the trouble some other people have to go through. And third, how could eating healthier be a bad decision in any way? It's something you should do regardless. Women =P
I know right :P I don't mean my personality I just mean I don't want to have to be totally physically different to go out with him, and how is not eating vegetables healthy? lol
Vegetable aren't the only healthy food in the world lol. Besides, I didn't say stop eating vegetables entirely. I said stop eating "nothing but vegetables." You're not going to get a healthy weight by eating vegetables alone. And you aren't going to become "totally physically different," either. You know what changes physically in this case? Practically nothing. Aside from the hair, all I'm asking you to do is better yourself as a person overall. And the hair is a matter of personal taste anyway; just try it and you might actually like it. There's a social phenomenon I forget the name of, but basically it can be summed up with the phrase "dying your hair blonde can make you act dumber." Maybe seeing the way he acts around you when he's slightly more interested will make you react to BE more interesting. Trying new things isn't objectively bad. And if you aren't willing to step out of your comfort zone a little and drift into the deep end a tiny bit to reel him in, maybe you should just cut the line.
Aww more fishing metaphors :3 also you talk a lot.
And you're petty <3
I know :3
How could a person seriously recognize a problem (and even the causes of that problem) and not take steps to try and fix it? Or even consider doing something differently to change the situation? :freak: