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The Devil Man
09-10-2006, 10:56 PM
(Edited because Kikimm made a very good point: This is for guys AND girls!)

I forgot to Post this Thread earlier on when I made the Showers one. I'd love to know some opinions on this from you guys.

This afternoon I saw one of my friends from way back. I hadn't seen him for a couple of months and it was good bumping into him again and catching up on old times. It also gave me the chance to call his girlfriend a baby-napper and cradle-snatcher :chuckle:

My friend is 23 years old and his girlfriend is a staggering 41 years old! :eek: That's like, an 18 years age gap! Seeing as this is in London, she is quite literally old enough to be his Momma. I don't know what she sees in him but I know what he sees in her :chuckle: I think he might even be a little bit in love with her. They've been dating for about a year or so.

Devil Man's question is simple this time around. What's the maximum number of years someone could be older then you before you say, 'No way! You're far too old to be dating me!'

I am in my twenties, and I'm a guy, so I'd say 5-7 years is my absolute limit. A girl could be 5-7 years older then me before I'd say, 'Noooooooo'!

What about you guys? There's a poll up there too, so feel free to click on an option :)

Oh, and for those that are in commited relationships or have got a wife/husband... pretend your single for this Thread :love: Devil Man grants you a temporary divorce.

kikimm
09-10-2006, 10:59 PM
I'm more....okay with guys being older than I am with them being younger. Even though you never mentioned that. ;P (Oh I meant you never mentioned them being younger!) I wouldn't date someone who was 2 years younger. Although I'd probably go...4 years older. At the most. 3 is best. I'd have to be completely infatuated to go 4.

McLovin'
09-10-2006, 11:01 PM
Hugh Hefner is my idol. :jokey:

Roto13
09-10-2006, 11:15 PM
I dated a 52-year-old. That's a year older than my father.

abrojtm
09-10-2006, 11:15 PM
None of those options is acceptable.
Here's the rule:
Take your age
Divide by two
Add seven.
There, that's your answer.
*Note: This does not work if you are under 15.

Arrianna
09-10-2006, 11:15 PM
I would say stick to within a year or two up to the age of 21. After that who cares. It's about mental maturity not age.

~*~Celes~*~
09-10-2006, 11:21 PM
My boyfriend right now is 2 years older than me. That's my limit now, however, I've dated guys 5 years older than me before. Was it dumb? Yes, and I'd have to be TOTALLY in love to date someone that much older ever again...though I don't see me breaking up with Alan EVER, sorry guys! :rolleyes:

Decessus
09-10-2006, 11:24 PM
Seeing as I'm about 115(Died in '91), I'm very picky.

your.mind.is.on.the.line
09-10-2006, 11:24 PM
I was debating this just last night, How many years is too far apart, not taking into consideration maturity. I'd say 5-10 ignoring maturity levels. But since I only like nerdy guys 2-3. You have to be on my level. My boyfriend's my age.

Captain Maxx Power
09-10-2006, 11:27 PM
Right now in my life 2-3 years is the limit since I'm 20, so anything beyond that goes into potentially illegal territory. As I get older, provided I haven't already married, I'm sure my range will increase.

Ryth
09-10-2006, 11:28 PM
Age means quite little to me. I'd date anyone my age and up. Not anyone younger (12 and under) because I feel it's too young if you're not really even a teen yet, that age is too naturally impressionable and naive. It wouldn't feel right. I'm sure most of you would agree.

Tavrobel
09-10-2006, 11:30 PM
True love is blind. But I (personally) would probably only go for someone within four years.

My_car_is_faster_than_you
09-10-2006, 11:38 PM
19 and 24, is the furthest I've been being on the younger side. I also look like I'm in my 30's, so when i'm with an older lady, it looks better.

I think that when you get older, the range increases. When I was 16, I didn't want to touch anyone who was 1 or 2 older than me. Now, it happens all the time.

Araciel
09-10-2006, 11:41 PM
i usually see girls who are a year or two younger than myself...it's hard to find anyone younger that i'm even remotely compatible with beyond small talk. i'm 24 so it only gets better from here i think

Rye
09-10-2006, 11:43 PM
I don't think I'd be able to date a guy much younger than me. I just like older guys, I'm attracted to them more. I don't think I'd be able to date a guy more than 3 or 4 years older than me, right now. Anything more than that would be a bit wrong for me personally.

StarChild
09-10-2006, 11:48 PM
my ex was 11 months younger then me.

I don't think love has no age, but yeah, it depends on the situation

daggertrepe
09-11-2006, 12:20 AM
7-9 years, but even that's pushing it.

Jowy
09-11-2006, 12:23 AM
The age gap with me has only been off by a few months for the most part. Three years would be the cutoff for me though.

Moon Rabbits
09-11-2006, 12:27 AM
Currently, I'd only date someone my age to three or four years older. When I get older, I'll probably let the age gap widen,

LunarWeaver
09-11-2006, 12:30 AM
Since I'm 20, going too many years down is troubletown. I would go quite a few older though, probably up to 35 or so. Hell, if he was rich I'd date him if he was 90.

Giga Guess
09-11-2006, 12:34 AM
10+ years, but not because I'm not fussy...it's because I feel complete around him.

Roto13
09-11-2006, 12:49 AM
I could not be more fussy, really. That's why I can't find anyone my own age. Except Lunar, who I spend most of my time in.

Giga Guess
09-11-2006, 01:12 AM
I could not be more fussy, really. That's why I can't find anyone my own age. Except Lunar, who I spend most of my time in.

Oh, get a room.

Pike
09-11-2006, 01:19 AM
My boyfriend is 3 1/2 years younger than I am. I'm 22 and he's 19. When we started dating, I was 20 and he was 17. It's only ever felt slightly weird, and only at the beginning of our relationship; honestly it feels like we're the same age. *shrugs*

Not only that, but basically all the guys (with one exception) that I've ever had serious crushes on have been at least a year younger than me, and all my close friends are considerably younger than me as well.

It works out though, since I both act younger than I really am, and look younger than I really am (most people, when asked to guess my age, guess 16-17.)

:choc2:

Shlup
09-11-2006, 01:19 AM
I'd totally have a sixty-something-year-old sugar daddy. Sounds hot! It's too late for me though. *sigh*

Rye
09-11-2006, 01:21 AM
My boyfriend is 3 1/2 years younger than I am. I'm 22 and he's 19. When we started dating, I was 20 and he was 17. It's only ever felt slightly weird, and only at the beginning of our relationship; honestly it feels like we're the same age. *shrugs*

Not only that, but basically all the guys (with one exception) that I've ever had serious crushes on have been at least a year younger than me, and all my close friends are considerably younger than me as well.

It works out though, since I both act younger than I really am, and look younger than I really am (most people, when asked to guess my age, guess 16-17.)

:choc2:

StephaNick again makes me awwww. ;__; <3

Pike
09-11-2006, 01:28 AM
StephaNick again makes me awwww. ;__; <3

Aww, I'm glad ^^;;

Madame Adequate
09-11-2006, 01:28 AM
Meh, I'm not sure I can put a hard limit on it. I mean, if I go ahead and say five years, what happens if I meet someone with seven years difference? *Shrugs* In practical terms, I doubt I'll be in a situation to date anyone more than two or three years outside my own age though. (Two or three years younger is almost certain to be the best pickin's for me as well, due to being a little older than most at college.)

Mirage
09-11-2006, 02:07 AM
I think yourage /2 +6 works fine. Assuming both parts are through puberty.

RSL
09-11-2006, 02:08 AM
I think putting a mathematical forumla on love is silly.

Mirage
09-11-2006, 02:15 AM
I'm not putting a mathematical formula on love, I'm putting a mathematical formula on what I'd consider "normal" age gaps. Saying "20 years" or "5 years" is just silly, because age differences get less and less important the older you get. The age difference between a 60 and a 70 year old is a lot less than the age difference between 20 and 30. Or l<dsghr>ol, 10 and 20.

To be honest though, I don't really care how big the age gap is, as long as they're both past the age of consent.

Madame Adequate
09-11-2006, 02:50 AM
So in ten thousand years we're going to have people asking like "I've met this amazing guy, he's 9,974 years old, but I'm only 23! What do I do?"

Jojee
09-11-2006, 02:55 AM
I'm 19, and I would date a ~25 year old guy at highest. ^_^ I said 5-7 years.

However, for younger guys... I would NOT go lower than 19. 19 is okay if he's older than me. If he's younger than me, even by like a month, that's pretty iffy. 18 is just, no xD

Moon Rabbits
09-11-2006, 02:56 AM
So in ten thousand years we're going to have people asking like "I've met this amazing guy, he's 9,974 years old, but I'm only 23! What do I do?"

Hawt.

Rostum
09-11-2006, 03:00 AM
Well, I'm 19 and the youngest I'd date is 18, maybe 17. The oldest I'd date would be around 22. So yeah, it's about 2/3 year difference for me I guess.

bipper
09-11-2006, 03:00 AM
Love may not have an age but the law sure as hell does. As long as they are legal, I could really care less.

Sunny Day Suicide
09-11-2006, 03:00 AM
Well after Hugh Hef no ones really cared. But who wouldn't want to do what he does?

Yuna_wannabe
09-11-2006, 03:15 AM
anything above 5 years would start getting creepy to me...unless your jensen ackles and your 14 years older then me thats fine...OOH and it has to be Him older i cant stand being oldest!

Christmas
09-11-2006, 07:34 AM
Love never exist in the first place.

Dignified Pauper
09-11-2006, 07:37 AM
i am 20 and could see myself with someone 27 or so, but as the pole says, that's pushing it.

ValkyrieWing
09-11-2006, 07:45 AM
I'm 22, and my boyfriend just turned 20 on Wednsday. :)

So, I guess I have a 2 and a half year buffer either way...all of my boyfriends have been younger than me.

Levian
09-11-2006, 10:42 AM
I went on a few dates with a 26 year old when I was 19. So that's 7, but honestly, I could never initiate a relationship with that much of an age gap. In this case I just didn't say no. I think my relationship gap, currently, is 3 years older and 2 years younger. Emphasis on the word relationship.

black orb
09-11-2006, 11:06 AM
>>> +2 and -10.. I doubt I have a chance with any age anyways..

Bart's Friend Milhouse
09-11-2006, 11:42 AM
Ideally the same age, I suppose a couple maybe three years wouldn't hurt

bipper
09-11-2006, 01:21 PM
Love never exist in the first place.

Sure it does. Its like hate plus sex.

Loony BoB
09-11-2006, 01:27 PM
My rule used to be that they had to be within 25% of my age for me to go out with them, but then I met Danielle and broke that rule 'cause I couldn't figure out any other reason not to go out with her. So, with that being said, noting I'm 22...

Too old? I'm not into older women in general. 24 is probably pushing it with me.
Too young? So long as they're legal and it doesn't weird you out then I guess it's up to you. But, uh, try not to get too far out of it. The youngest a girl could be for me to go out with her is 16 years old - Danielle's age and the legal age for consent in the UK & NZ and therefore in my head, it's also the legal age.

When I'm 30, I wouldn't hook up with a 16 year old though. It'd probably be more like 23-33 at that point. Hopefully I won't have to think too hard on it though.

Polaris
09-11-2006, 01:30 PM
Until 7 years i think, I use to hang out with a guy who had 23 and I'm 17 and we were perfect friends and somehoe we were also a very good couple...

Miriel
09-11-2006, 01:40 PM
5 years and 14 days. Not a day older than that!

And I've never ever ever wanted or even considered going out with someone less than a few months younger than me. The idea never used to cross my mind.

Shaun
09-11-2006, 01:44 PM
I was in a relationship with a girl younger than me... She's fourteen, and I'm eighteen next month. I always felt guilty about being with her, and it never worked anyway. It certainly wouldn't work now as we're both back at school/college and therefore would only be able to see each other on Saturdays (she's quite far from me).

Breine
09-11-2006, 02:18 PM
I doesn't matter. True love is blind - so if you're really in love with someone age should not be a problem. I mean, I have a friend who is 18 and his girlfriend is 29. When I first found out about it I was like: "Eeeh, it may be pushing the limit... just a bit," but now I'm fine with it. If it works for them and they're happy then I cannot see why I should have a problem with it.

bipper
09-11-2006, 02:20 PM
If true love was really blind there would be a lot more happy ugly people.

Miriel
09-11-2006, 02:28 PM
True love is blind.
Eww. That's so disgustingly cheesy and untrue. :p

Loony BoB
09-11-2006, 02:30 PM
True love is blind, but only to certain things. It just means that you don't see some bad things about someone that you would see if you were not in love with them. Some bad things. Not all.

bipper
09-11-2006, 02:31 PM
I prefer the phrase love makes you blind.

... and retarded.

Shaun
09-11-2006, 04:08 PM
Meh, love schmove. I can't be bothered with the hassle of even trying anymore. The one relationship I thought was going to last went pretty wrong, so screw it. I think many people seek love because they're expected to. I'm tired of living up to society/life/family's expectations.

Resha
09-11-2006, 04:14 PM
I give myself + and - 44 year boundaries (that's 44 years either way) :jess: That means I will date people who are 60 or -28. Man, those unborn things :jokey:

Zante
09-11-2006, 04:16 PM
Until the age of 18 +- two years sound fine, after 20 and older, age doesn't matter.

boris no no
09-11-2006, 04:58 PM
If I fall in love I don't care about the age difference. Yes if I dated a guy thats 80 that would be a bit dosgy but age never matters. Its the person that you're in love with that does ^^

Although saying that I have never dated anyone more then 3 years older then me.

Araciel
09-11-2006, 05:09 PM
dating is for chumps anyway...i'm going to get one of those mail-order brides someday

Zeldy
09-11-2006, 05:51 PM
My last boyfriend was 3 years older, so age isnt that much of a problem. 4-5 years would be my limit, ish.
It all changes once you get past teenage years, though. Age dosn't become an issue.

exit60b
09-11-2006, 06:24 PM
well, when i was 18 i dated a 23 year old... and thats as bad as im about to go. my last boyfriend was my age and i prefer it that way.

Araciel
09-11-2006, 06:30 PM
society is the only thing that really bothers me about. mental-maturity wise, as far as i'm willing to go is 4 years either way at the moment

Rocket Edge
09-11-2006, 07:05 PM
None of those options is acceptable.
Here's the rule:
Take your age
Divide by two
Add seven.
There, that's your answer.
*Note: This does not work if you are under 15.
That's a good point, but then again, love is love, it has no age.

Evastio
09-11-2006, 10:02 PM
I wanted to make this thread. :(

I'm okay with having a girlfriend with a 2-3 year gap. (even though I accidentally voted for 4-5 years)

NorthernChaosGod
09-11-2006, 10:16 PM
I go by the 3 year rule as of now, but as I grow older the gap may widen.

Shiny
09-11-2006, 10:41 PM
This is my lover:

http://www.physio-line.co.uk/acatalog/mr%20thrifty.jpg

He's quiet and shy. He's 400 years old, but I love him anyway.

Decessus
09-11-2006, 10:54 PM
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This is my lover:

http://www.physio-line.co.uk/acatalog/mr%20thrifty.jpg

He's quiet and shy. He's 400 years old, but I love him anyway.

You just like him because he always has a boner.-->*snip*

No. ~ Leeza

Coronet
09-11-2006, 11:57 PM
I said 4-5 years since my boyfriend is a little less than 4 years older than me. :) We met when I was a freshman in high school, but didn't start dating till I was a freshman in college.

Rosenti
09-12-2006, 02:25 PM
Kinda depends.. what age u are...

Coronet
09-12-2006, 08:18 PM
Age of both parties does matter, as Rosenti said.

If the girl is 13 and the guy is 18, that's a problem. >_<;

Jimmy Dark Aeons Slayer
09-12-2006, 08:22 PM
It makes me sick to see 40 year old guys with 20 year old girls but that ainīt my problem.

Myself? I prefer to date girls my own age or maybe a year older.

Miriel
09-12-2006, 08:48 PM
PS. Love does have an age.

That's why we celebrate anniversaries!

Alive-Cat
09-12-2006, 08:50 PM
Love is not something that has any rules, or boundaries.

exit60b
09-12-2006, 08:51 PM
Love is not something that has any rules, or boundaries.

Nor is it a game to be won...

Giga Guess
09-13-2006, 12:50 AM
Love is not something that has any rules, or boundaries.

Nor is it a game to be won...

It defies logic, and conventions...and generally, rational thought too...