Breakdown

[ljkkjlcm9]

I've finally broken down, me, the person who nothing affects. The person who always has a smile among the people who know him. I'm lost, dazed, and confused and have no-one and no where to turn....

[Giga Guess]

Not to sound callous, but is there a point to this? What caused it? Is there anything we can do do help? Or is this just a pity party?

[Polaris]

ok this is the part where evryone shows up and ask 'What happened?' ^^

[Captain Maxx Power]

Smells like EoEO.

[Levian]

The problem is you have no friends?

An easy way to gain new friends is getting a job. You'll meet tons of new people and they're easy to talk to because you have much in common. I guess you could always sign up for some courses or some activities if you don't want to get a job. But really, this is just a guess in the dark, you'll have to elaborate if you want help from us, if that is what you want.

[Christmas]

I'm sure a lot of people around here are willing to talk to you or listen to what you have to said. :bigsmile:

[Roto13]

Or point and laugh at you.

*does just that*

[Sergeant Hartman]

WWJD?

[ljkkjlcm9]

uh...
Well I'm in school and know plenty of people, it's just none of them are really my friends. Things are just falling apart for me. Losing family, not doing well in school, etc. I'm normally one to let it all affect but because of so much of it, it's finally caught up to me, and I'm just lost.

[XxSephirothxX]

Hey man, at least you don't have cancer. Find one of your friends who likes to listen and spill your guts.

[Polaris]

hmmmmmmmmmmmm well u know what ppl use to say here: better alone than with bad companies... I only have one or two real friends and I've known them since I was 11 years... it takes a long time to have REAL friends... Just get use to your loneliness or go out more... Stay under 4 walls won't help a lot... As your family, without details what I must say is that everything will be all right, u just have to stay positive... :)
School... Is alway the same problem, I guess with all the worries before u can't focus that much and that's why u're not well...

But everything will turn out GOOD!!!!!!

[Peegee]

*checks that it's GC*

I don't get the point of this thread, but some codine couldn't hurt.

Seriously, wtf...

[ljkkjlcm9]

Oh I'm very use to being alone, I'm just sick of it. I've always been alone, my entire life. Even in my own family, I was the youngest and pretty much got left to myself. Being alone is what made me how I am, but I am sick of it. The family issues just suck, as do most family issues. And yes, the reason I can't do well in school is that I can't focus at all. I'm thinking I should take time off from school, but then again, my parents would never stand for that either.

THE JACKEL

[Resha]

Oh I'm very use to being alone, I'm just sick of it. I've always been alone, my entire life. Even in my own family, I was the youngest and pretty much got left to myself. Being alone is what made me how I am, but I am sick of it. The family issues just suck, as do most family issues. And yes, the reason I can't do well in school is that I can't focus at all. I'm thinking I should take time off from school, but then again, my parents would never stand for that either.

THE JACKAL
Find a place to go to. Like -- I dunno. The gym. Horseriding. Where you can meet people. Get a good hobby that (a) gets you out of the house and (b) lets you interact with complete strangers. Strangers become friends. Take lessons, take tuition...anything. DO DO DO.

[ljkkjlcm9]

well see I'm in college, I've met and meet plenty of people, but still.

sigh, I just don't know

THE JACKEL

[Quindiana Jones]

Play games that can win you money, and never lose :D That's my remedy for not-feeling-good.

[I Am Stoner]

well see I'm in college, I've met and meet plenty of people, but still.

sigh, I just don't know

THE JACKAL


Do you feel lonely? Like a bit of you is missing? Like your soul needs something to hold onto? My advice is start to mingle with more people, start going to the movies with them. When I had that hole within me, it was filled by the woman I love. Maybe its your way of saying, i am fed up with being lonely, no one there to hold you, to kiss you, to comfort you or to protect you. Its just a suggestion. I hope everything works out for you mate. Good luck.:)

[farplaner]

I find it somewhat annoying that everyone's advice for someone who has trouble making friends is to "just get out their and meet people." That's the problem! Not everyone who is lonely sits huddled in a cave having never seen the light of day. Simply being around peopl is not enough to make friends. I know that may sound difficult to believe for those of you who get along well in social situations, but it's not the same for everyone.

....to elaborate, I know most of you are trying to help, but try to consider what type of person you are dealing with before you tell (figuratively speaking) a parapalegic "you just gotta' get out there and start walking with people!"

[ljkkjlcm9]

yeah he's right, cause I get out a lot, and I know plenty of people. Actually I can't go anywhere at this school without seeing a few people I know and saying hi, but one of them are actually like close friends, ya know? I get along with most people really well, my few friends tell me I have some sorta charisma. But the friends I do have are typically busy and I can't really talk/hang out with them much, so I'm usually alone.

THE JACKEL

[Polaris]

U can't be 24 hours with them! I haven't been with my friends for almost 2 weeks... I've been always (or pretty much always) on my home... it sucks! But I can speak to my bf and friends... I write, i draw I try to keep myself busy to don't feel so alone...

[Roto13]

You have charisma? Because when I read this topic I was thinking, "Well, I can see him being lonely. From what I know about him, I wouldn't want to talk to him."

[ljkkjlcm9]

You have charisma? Because when I read this topic I was thinking, "Well, I can see him being lonely. From what I know about him, I wouldn't want to talk to him."

yes well about all I think you know, is I don't approve of homosexuality. But I'm a very easy going guy and can be pretty funny and most of the people I know say it's always interesting/fun to hang out with me. No offense roto, but you don't know much of anything about me, and more than likely if you ran into me, you wouldn't know it and we'd probably talk. I am one of those people that talks to everyone, can strike a conversation anytime, got that from my dad.

and no I can't be 24 hours with them, but when we live on the same campus, less than 5 minutes from eachother, and I don't see them for a month, that tends to make me lonely.

THE JACKEL

[Christmas]

I find this kinda contradicting since you can get along well with people but you are alway alone. And from what I know, you dun wanna be alone. so if that is the case, just go out there and make new friends when you are alone and feel like wanting someone to be by your side. :bigsmile:

[ljkkjlcm9]

I find this kinda contradicting since you can get along well with people but you are alway alone. And from what I know, you dun wanna be alone. so if that is the case, just go out there and make new friends when you are alone and feel like wanting someone to be by your side. :bigsmile:
yeah see you don't understand. It's easy to get along with people, but it's hard for me to make friends. It's not that simple to just make new friends. If it were obviously it wouldn't be a problem, but it really isn't that simple. See I've always thought of my charisma as a gift and curse, cause while I can get along with people, I never get close enough to become friends or get anyone to really care about me.

THE JACKEL

[Christmas]

K, how do you define "friend"?

What is "friend" to you?

[ljkkjlcm9]

how about someone that actually wants to hang out with me when they have free time and invites me to things when they're going out. Yeah it'd be nice if I actually got invited to anything by anyone I know, but I'm typically forgotten or the last choice when it comes down to it.

THE JACKEL

[Christmas]

Like you said:



But the friends I do have are typically busy

BTW, they never invite you out or anything?

[~*~Celes~*~]

Hey, I'll help you :)

I went through a similar time my freshman year. My mom was getting surgery done, my grades were slipping, my friends were turning against me...it seemed like crap. What I did was I rode through it and eventually, got my grades back up and made new friends. My mom made it through surgery just fine.

Basically all you need to do is get through it. I'll be here via PM, email, or IM if you need to talk to me :) I know that you need friends right now so I'll be there for ya!

[Fonzie]

Hrmm...you have to find something in common with these people you want to make friends with. I mean, making close friends began in Junior High. Seems you started quite late. Why now do you want close friends? Is it for suport?

[ljkkjlcm9]

I tried making close friends in junior high, and thought I had some through highschool, but no-one I was friends with talks to me anymore.

And no, I rarely if ever get invited anywhere, which is funny because they know even if they're doing something I don't particularly enjoy, I'll go with them for the company because I'd rather hang out with them than be alone. It's really quite annoying I don't get invited out more often.

THE JACKEL

[bipper]

When your by yourself and too self reliant, it is hard to tell if you exist. You have no social reflection to look at, and therefor feel lost. The simple answer is to socialise, but the harder answer would be define yourself outside of social construct, if being social just is not your thing.

It is extremly normal for one to go through identity crisis. Thought your immediate identity may be clear, sometimes you have to look a little deeper at the why. Why am I a loner? Why do I have what aspireations I have.

-or-

You need your frinds to basically prove themselves to you. Basicallically show you that they are not friends based on fisade alone. I know what it is like to have a friend or what have your, and be lonely. There is a certain faith that needs to happen, a bond to be made or mend. From there, I would not be able to help unless you can figure what bond was broken that made your feel the way you do about social relationships.

That is just my immediate opinion on the subject.

[ljkkjlcm9]

no I think you're right. I know if my friends want to do something with me, I'd jump at it and go with them, even if I don't particularly enjoy that, but none of my friends have ever done that for me. So while I'm sure I've proven my friends can rely on me, I don't feel I can rely on any of them.

THE JACKEL

[Shaun]

The problem is you have no friends?

An easy way to gain new friends is getting a job. You'll meet tons of new people and they're easy to talk to because you have much in common. I guess you could always sign up for some courses or some activities if you don't want to get a job. But really, this is just a guess in the dark, you'll have to elaborate if you want help from us, if that is what you want.

I can see where you're coming from here, but it's not always that simple. Though I guess I can't exactly place myself in his shoes, with me having autism, but as he's at a similar age to me, it's hard to get an ideal job. The job I have certainly hasn't helped me, and I've found that it's the complete opposite and I've had nothing in common. What I'm trying to say here, is that if he's still in education, he's not going to have that freedom with jobs. I guess I'm no good at explaining this... XD

[sephirothishere]

friends suck.....humans suck period "...." ....we jus take everythin and then are like....sucky about it.....