Yeah, dang! That's craaaaazy. My family is pretty messed up too, both on my mom's side and my stepdad's side. My mom's side is worse, though, I think.
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Pregnancy puts a huge load on a woman's body and sadly it can be too much. I've overall been fortunate in that aside from the one miscarriage (that probably happened because I was malnourished, see abusive home life for details) I've been able to have 3 healthy babies. I have some bladder problems, but it could have been much much worse. It is very sad when things like that happen I was only 1 when my brother died, so I don't really remember him. I was told I really loved him and looked all over for him and cried nonstop when he died. A lot of my mom's addiction problems and the resulting abuse I went through started after he passed, so I always wonder how much different my life would be if he'd lived. But I guess for all I know, something else could have triggered her addictions. Here's a good story for you, after my brother died, my family gave money to my mother to help her pay for a headstone. My grandmother took it from her (insensitive) saying she couldn't be trusted with that much money and that she'd waste it (insensitive). My grandmother then proceeded to SPEND that money on crap (pretty bad) and didn't raise it back until about 8 years later (really bad). Then she told my mom it was time to go buy a headstone and my mother told her to go smurf herself (understandably) which led my grandmother to call everyone in the family and tell them my mother didn't even care enough about her son to buy him a headstone (absolutely horrible). I mean, I've never liked my mother, but even she didn't deserve that
My dad was a dillhole. My mom was in labor with my brother and my mom woke him up to drive her to the hospital, but he didn't feel like it. So my grandpa drove her. And yeah, when people are troutty 99% of the time, it's hard to forgive them otherwise. I think I would like be pregnant. I dunno. I don't think too much would change for me. xD Not sure I actually want to be a MOM, though. And I'm sorry about your brother. I was only a few years old when my mom had him, so it didn't affect me as much as it could have. It's still really weird to think about. Had my mom's pregnancies all gone alright (sister was stillborn, she miscarried an identical twin, and that's how she found out she was pregnant with my brother) I would be the oldest of four kids. Instead, I'm an only child. It's crazy.
Yeah people can be like that. Fortunately where I grew up, the religious culture is different. So even though basically everyone I knew was religious, I never got things like that. But yeah I did have someone just tell me it was for the best Heck my boyfriend at the time (the baby's father) was incredibly insensitive the night of. I called him and he was like "We'll me and the guys are going to play pool..." When I said maybe this takes precedence, he came over, but literally had his friend sitting in the car with the car running waiting so I was pressured to just let him go. A few days later he got incredibly depressed and starting crying all the time. I guess it took a while to sink in. But the guy was a jackass overall so hard to forgive him for that one. I love being pregnant, but it always brings drama for me When I tried being a surrogate, my whole family practically disowned me. If I could make a living of being a surrogate, I probably would though. I'm one of the few women I know who actually enjoys pregnancy And I'm sorry to hear about your brother My brother passed away when he was 4
When my brother died (he lived for about 48 hours) a lady told my mom, "Whatever God sent him on Earth to accomplish, he accomplished." My mom was so mad. She said, "He only lived for two days. What do you think he accomplished?" People are so messed up. People are the worst when it comes to someone who is grieving. My friend had a miscarriage early this year and the stuff people were saying to her was so gross. And then people were getting offended that she just was super depressed for a few weeks and couldn't do what they wanted her to do (around that time she found out she was pregnant again. She had her baby a few weeks ago.) Anyways, yeah.
Thank you! And no rush. You've been very reliable, so I'm not concerned about getting speeches from you.
Nah its just to help out. You should do yours, its no problem. I might get my last speech to you tonight but I'm pretty exhausted so it'll probably be after I wake up sometime tomorrow
I think Shauna and I both have good ideas for that speech! But if you have a good idea for it too, please send it. I'm thinking of doubling up speeches for that one! If you were just taking it to help me out, though, nevermind. Although I do appreciate it and everything you've done so far.
You do start to get burnt out a little after awhile. Plus, I generally take speeches that I'm inspired by or have an idea for. So it's hard taking a speech I don't really want to do.
Yeah its not always easy coming up with ideas for that many speeches