Monday Rage: female sexism
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, 03-13-2012 at 12:26 AM (1838 Views)
Women are often just as guilty for the maintenance of societal gender roles as men. A female classmate of mine favorably posted this link in her Gchat status. Some of it can be summed up with "stop feeling the need to act stereotypically masculine," which is good advice for everyone. But numbers 8 and 9 make me want to punch all people who subscribed to such chauvinist nonsense:
Notice in 8 that the author (a woman) implies that it is only the woman who who will have these petty indecisive moments, and it's the strong and resolute MAN's job to gently admonish her for her feminine whimsy and decide on a course of action. It is the MAN's appropriate role to be more assertive and decisive and to step in when his woman is being too fluffy-headed. I want to puke.8. Asserting Power
In no way am I giving you the right to physically or mentally abuse me—there’s nothing that would make me flee faster. What I’m referring to here is being the decision-maker when my indecisiveness gets the best of me, suggesting and planning dates, and standing up to guys who are creepin’ on me (no need for a fist fight—stern words and your arm around my shoulder will do just fine). Not only will I appreciate you filling in when I need you, but I’ll also recognize your strong, solid self, and I’ll like it.
9. Jealousy
This one’s pretty simple. If you’re not jealous, you don’t care. At least, that’s how it looks. But if you get a little hot-and-bothered when my best guy friend calls, or steal me away from another guy making conversation at the bar, it’s validating that you have a vested interest in me and aren’t willing to just let me go. Provided you don’t take it that jealousy to psycho levels, it’s just plain cute.
Number 9 is so common it's painful. Jealously is considered the norm, even proper, and what that entails about trust and maturity in the relationship is ignored. This sort of high school "stay away from my guy/girl" bulltit is so ridiculously immature. First off, they don't belong to you; they are with you by their own choice. Secondly, this sort of "cute" jealously has no place in any serious relationship built on any sort of trust. Such lack of knee-jerk jealously does not demonstrate a "vested interest," but a lack of respect and trust; being comfortable enough to not react to jealous impulses so easily shows a deeper level of caring than reacting possessively. I would only be interested in a woman who not only could take care of herself if some guy tries to chat her up, but who I could trust to do so.