I want the truth and alll the truth-NO THAT'S ENOUGH!

Yeah I'm always being far too honest about myself when it's unlikely to make people think any better of me (and will usually do the opposite). "Hey everyone! I'm a 25 year old virgin! Go me!" seems to be a favourite at the moment.

Thing is, I find it difficult to care about what people think about me.

I don't know! It has its pros and cons I suppose. Whilst it can be negative when it comes to people's perceptions etc I feel less burdened having to worry about what other people think. Plus I think the collection of friends who stick with you knowing everything, are ones worth keeping. Whilst the judgemental ones aren't.

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Originally Posted by Psi

Never, ever, under any circumstances, apologise to someone for being totally honest....

when people accuse you of being cynical or miserable when you're just being honest, it's more than likely they don't like the truth and would rather live in some ridiculous fantasy world of their own.

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:cool: You haven't figured out yet that there are many truths ? You will...

I am pretty truthful but I draw the line at hurting people's feelings. If it will be hurtful, I won't say it unless it's truly needed. Truth needs to be told sometimes, but there is no reason it has to be shoved down the person's throat unless it is the only way the person will listen to it. And even then it might be worse to say it than to keep quiet. If you are truly trying to help people you will find a non-hurtful way to say it.

And if you don't care about whether your truth will be heard and acted upon by your friends then you are not really trying to help them. All you are doing is treating them like toilet paper: They are there to absorb your shiite and are supposed to be glad for it.

I for one, don't like to be on the receiving end of brain farts from a friend. You are in a bad mood and want to be rude and blunt and unpleasant ? Sucks to be you, I don't have to be here tolerating your shiite. Who made ME your human toilet ? Go throw your :skull::skull::skull::skull:ty mood and nasty retorts elsewhere.

Besides, you need to know there's payback: You want to say what you want, any way you want to say it, be ready to have the same favor returned: be ready to listen to what you don't want to hear, said in the nastiest way possible.

I pretty much keep mu mouth shut unless it directly relates to me. And not much does.

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Originally Posted by Bert

I pretty much keep mu mouth shut unless it directly relates to me. And not much does.

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I don't see why many people in this world even put so much emphasis on the truth. Everything has its ups and downs, and speaking the truth is most certainly not out of that realm. Whether speaking the truth is good or bad is completely based on personal viewpoints and the situation at hand.

Honesty isnt always a virtue.

To me it comes down to WHY are you telling the truth, when you know it will hurt your friends feelings. Sometimes it is necessary to be blunt, but most times bluntness is counterproductive.

If it is to help the friend, then if you really want to help, put some effort in telling the truth in a way your friend will listen and will understand it. Which probably is not telling it bluntly, as bluntness tend to hurt and shut down a person's will to listen to it.

If they asked you and they know you are blunt, or they ask you to be blunt, then you are being a good friend by "telling it like it is".

But if no one asked you and you are being blunt and hurtful just because you don't like to mince words, then you are being selfish and arrogant. You are not helping anyone by just shoving hurtful facts down someone's face. Why do your friends have to take your bad mood and bad manners in stride, if you can't be bothered to be considerate to them ? Because it is the truth ? So what ? Who made you the judge of others anyway ?

I sometimes give out too many details about my sexual life. Mostly online, not so often in the real world.

If people ask me for an opinion, I say what I think without sugar-coating it, but if they're not asking me in particular, I usually don't care enough to speak my mind.

Meh.. A lot of people do that in this or other forums. And you are not doing anything that has not been done by many on your age. Unless your mom reads EoFF I wouldn't worry.