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Originally Posted by Arctic_Ang3L
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Join the club!Quote:
Originally Posted by Arctic_Ang3L
Physical and personality likings are a big reason that both genders attract, but I think confidence follows closely after. I've even seen cases where it works for people who don't have much (at all) going for them, example: have you ever seen a hot guy with an ugly girl or visa versa? I bet that ugly girl or guy doesn't complain daily to their partner, "I wish I was better looking". Not to say that if your not confident no one will like you, because they will. It's just people generally (I might add) become annoyed if they constantly have to boost their partner's confidence level and assure them that they are not "too fat" or that their "masculine body part is more than enough" or whatever they case may be. :tongue:
I know I hated whenever I got into a relationship where my boyfriends would often ask me, "do you think I put on a little weight since we've been together?" or "are you still attracted to me?" and I feel sorry for men who have the same issue with their girlfriends. Don't get me wrong, it's alright to ask your partner every once in a while, but your confidence shouldn't come from other people, you should at least be a little accepting of yourself.
And obviously, the person you are with asked you out or said yes to you because they were attracted either to your physical appearances or your personality. If you gained a little or a lot of weight, do something about it! If you don't think your pretty enough.........I dunno! I'm not a damn psychiatrist...
I'm very happy in my current relationship because I'm not only very attracted to my man but he is a confident person, which makes his personality (that is already really good) even more appealing.:lovers:
A'yo, I'm gonna lay it down like this ya' heard me. Typhoon A.K.A Tha Reapa is loaded with self-confidence, ambition, respect, love, care, very fun to be around, down to earth (When I want to be), hell I'm a womens dream man. But here comes the shocker. Most women would rather someone who can kick her ass (A Ruff Neck) over a nice guy. I don't get it!!! You women say you want one thing, and then your attracted to a exact opposite. What the hell?!?! Well, I guess it's the wants and needs argument all over again...
Hmm... It's not just you. I've heard a handful of people say that women who were abused and beaten as children tend to (unintentionally) look for the same ass hole qualities in a mate.
You don't want someone like that. Find a hot girl with a brain, they're rare but they ARE out there.
A'yo, I know exactly what I want in a woman. It'a just that when it comes down to it, I'm not even though of that way by any I know. DAMMIT!!!! WHAT AM I DOING WRONG!?!?!?!?Quote:
Originally Posted by Tifa Valentine
heck im a guy, and, yes i check to see if they are good looking, but i go on personality mainly, i never rush things and get to know the person before i try owt (probs why im still single after 16 years)
Good looks make for good first impressions :p. After a while, the importance of that fades.
So what you're saying is the fact I'm an extremely Shallow and pickey male is completey not my fault and therefore cannot be blaimed for it because of my Biology?Quote:
Originally Posted by hhr1dluv
Thats Awesome!
I look for more in the guy's character in his MMORPG, I mean, how can you date a someone if he is a n00b in MMORPG? :bigsmile:
Originally Bespoken by TyphoonThaReapa
I doubt it's you. I hate that I'm no good when it comes to reading girls (and sadly enough I AM ONE!:() I was never able to tell any of my guy friends what was going through their heads when they passed up some really decent guys! Honestly, you should kick back and enjoy plenty of casual hook ups with lady friends (if your not doing so already) until one really catches your interest. You didn't include that you got looks, so finding contemporary g/fs shouldn't be a problem.;)Quote:
A'yo, I know exactly what I want in a woman. It'a just that when it comes down to it, I'm not even though of that way by any I know. DAMMIT!!!! WHAT AM I DOING WRONG!?!?!?!?
Originally Bespoken by I Don't Need A Name
Just curious, single as in you've never had a girlfriend or currently don't have a stable girlfriend?Quote:
heck im a guy, and, yes i check to see if they are good looking, but i go on personality mainly, i never rush things and get to know the person before i try owt (probs why im still single after 16 years)
Because if girls were only attracted to looks and paid no thought, they'd get pregnant, have kids, and the guy would leave.
Girls need to marry somebody who has 'personality' so he will pay for the children she bears.
This is a good time for me to tell everybody to get a paternity test when you have a potential child that could be yours (or not be yours, rather).
ie: every time a kid is born that you can be associated to as the father, you get a paternity test.
Marry me :]Quote:
Originally Posted by kikimmGuys can be complete assholes too, though. I'm not like, saying this to you personally, but girls put each other down a lot. We're all too eager to say "All girls are mean and backstabbing I'm only friends with guys!" Also, theundeadhero is right.Quote:
Originally Posted by xxthebadgemakerxx
I dunno how to comment on what you said in general since I don't have that much experience with life or anything, but I know for me, having self-confidence isn't all that important. I mean, I don't want someone who's constantly putting themself down, but being insecure or shy or whatever isn't going to make me walk away. That's dumb.
No, its the rule. Not the exception. Though there are exceptions. But you can still very easily generalize. MOST girls ARE attracted to confidense. Except they're not a very good judge. Which is why you see them hooking up with assholes who don't really know what confidence is. They have cockiness and conceit and arrogance. Close enough, right? Marry him! Stupid girls :]Quote:
Originally Posted by Breine
Then they say "Oh I want a guy like this". Which probably describes their best guy friend who they'd never date xD! Stupid girls
Probably change in the near future however. Arrogance and machoness are becoming obsolete. Nerds will be the ones making the most money in the future. Because, yeah. Girls love money. They don't care if they're treated well as long as they're taken care of ;] Stupid girls
And the biggest problem is that girls (notice I"m saying girls, not women, with the hope that they mature out of this stupidity) never take a step back and analyze their situation regarding anyone. They just go with what they feel. And of course, their feelings are usually stupid :]
As stated by NeoCracker:
Well, what you're saying actually coincides with what is known as the naturalistic fallacy. Though it might be biologically sound for you to be "shallow," that doesn't mean that it's morally right. For example, infanticide is biologically sound (some animals kill their offspring if the success of their offspring isn't imminent). Yet, it's certainly wrong for us as humans to kill our children. Our society doesn't accept that behavior.Quote:
So what you're saying is the fact I'm an extremely Shallow and pickey male is completey not my fault and therefore cannot be blaimed for it because of my Biology?
Thats Awesome!
I realize that you were probably joking when you were originally making your comment. :p
Humans are actually a curious species. We have monogamous tendencies, but our species has definitely been marked as polygynous/polyandrous as well. Also, as humans, it's very hard to study human behavior. We just have likely hypotheses. :)
Hmmm...
I noticed that my boyfriend was attractive, initially, then I found out how awesome of a person he was.
He noticed that i was a kind person, and then noticed i was cute too. lol
Isn't that supposed to be reversed, then?
It's somewhat rooted in the way to which the evolutionary components of us humans work.