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well if you were close to him it probobly has'nt hit in yet. Ya know your brain refuses it. it will probobly start to kick in when you talk about him or try to call him on teh phone and realize hes not there :(
I recently lost a freind but i only imagine what pain your feeling haveing soemone ripped away form you so close.
Sorry to hear about the loss.
Like you said, at least he is no longer suffering.
May he rest in peace.
I'm sorry about your brother, Chris, but what you're feeling sounds quite normal to me. I've gone through this myself with a few family members and in the end you actually feel almost happy just because they're not suffering anymore. You're not horrible and don't feel guilty.
I'm sorry about that, Chris. It took me months to even really greive over my great grandmother. I hope when you are ready to let go, you'll be able to find the same support you have around here.
It's completely normal. When my grandma was dying of lung cancer, In her last few days she told me not to cry cause she was ready to go and finally make it to that better place. I didnt understand at the time, But my dad said she was in such pain, and she wasnt scared or sad in her last hours.
I know how you feel. It's good that you feel like that though, because you know he's not suffering anymore. Everyone usually feels the same way you do.
I'm sorry about your half-brother though. :(
We're forced to study human reactions to such things as the death of loved ones as psychology majors, so I would say that it seems you were able to accept his death, and I think that's very healthy, considering you knew it was probably coming and could see he was suffering.
Even though you miss him, I'm sure you know he's happier now and you'll see him again.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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my condolences man!
Losing a loved one, even after a prolonged bout with cancer or disease, is never a subject you can completely prepare yourself for. Until the loss happens, you cannot know how you'll react or how long it'll take before it sinks in. There may always be a bit of a void left because this person, I'm assuming, held a special place in your heart, and yet, that being said, perhaps take some solace in that he will never truly be gone. So long as you cherish his legacy, you recall all the good times you had with him, the courage he displayed these last years of his life, and the memories that will always be a part of your life, he will continue to live on as well.
We all grieve differently, depending on who we are, who we lost, and the circumstances surrounding the loss. That being said, you have handled this situation, from my point of view, with dignity, grace, and an obvious love for him, and perhaps the greatest tribute you can make is to live your life to the fullest with him always in your heart.
May you all find some lasting wonderful memory to hang on to during this trying experience, and hopefully, everyone will grow stronger and closer together as you all move forward.
Take care all.
My heart truly goes out to you Chris. :cry:
I don't really know what else to say...umm...maybe this can show you how that your reaction isn't horrible.
When my dear grandma died three years ago it all seemed surreal to me. Like it wasn't happening. I cried only once at the funeral but that once wasn't even for her. It was the look on my poor uncles face as he carried the coffin that reduced me to tears. I remember feeling guilty as all my cousins openly showed their emotion, while my face was dry. It was not until about a week later that it truly "hit" me and I could really grieve the loss of my Grandma.
What I'm trying to say is, maybe it all hasn't "hit" you yet. I mean, it hasn't been long. You're probably still in a state of shock.
My condolences to you and your family.
May he rest in peace.
I can't really add anything else to what's already been said, Chris.
I offer my condolences to you, your family and your friends.
I'm sorry. :( *Hugs* I know how you feel...when my granddad died, I never cried. The only thing I remember about his death was feeling excited coz his photo came in the newspaper. So that makes me a very bad person... :cry:
But I think that maybe you are sad...it's just that you've accepted his death. Maybe...
:( No, if my sis would be suffering too, I mean it'd be for her best if her suffering stopped... A friend of mine dyed with a tumour too... that was horrible...
I'm very sorry..My my condolences to your family and you...