Then, you know, ask her about herself. Jebus.
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Then, you know, ask her about herself. Jebus.
Yeah, I just went "screw it" and started asking about herself, kinda like "I'd like to know more about you :)" and suddenly everything became much easier.
Wow, I'm making great progress for being a shy Asperger-guy. :D
It is said that woman likes talking about themselves, i won't know if this is a pro or a con.
PS: I seldom talk about myself.
Sometimes MASMAS even pretends to be a man :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Christmas
Don't treat MSN like a phone conversation where you have to say something every five seconds. That's just irritating.
Of course I don't usually talk to people over IM unless IRC is down or they don't get on there xD
Happens all the time. Sometimes I feel like I just don't have anything to talk about because I know the person too well and we've practically talked about everything. But that whole not talking about anything interesting phase goes away. I just say continue talking and putting some sort of effort out there, then something'll will spark up, and it'll be just like old times.
yeah, but whats worse is when an msn conversation is more stimulating than live conversation, then you know you're in trouble
MSN convos are really hard sometimes unless they're with someone you don't talk to often.
I find it to be the opposite! I feel like I can't be myself when I'm talking with someone I don't know very well. When I'm talking with someone I'm comfortable with it's so much easier and stuff flows better and you can joke around and blah blah blah. So yeah just keep at it and eventually talking to this girl over instant messaging will get better. If you're like me anyways. Like Reles said, effort!Quote:
Originally Posted by licence
Every once in awhile if I don't have the energy or the inspiration to lead a conversation over IM, I'll just forget to respond and let it die out. In that case, you can always talk to them another day. In general, though, I find talking to people over IM much more fluid and conversationy than any other method online.
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Originally Posted by kikimm
MSN > AIM, MSN > Yahoo, Yahoo > AIM
.:. MSN RAWKS MEH SAWKSERS!
EDIT: Only 'cause you can get lotsa smilies through the internet and add them though ;)
I'm not very quick on my feet. I'm not good at instant messaging stuff.
Everyone who is reading this message. SEND OLD MANUS A PM RIGHT NOW. DO IT.Quote:
Originally Posted by Christmas
Just start talking about household appliances or something extremely off the wall. It's an excellent conversation starter.
I think one of the reasons why your conversations feel more awkward is because you can't really put as much text into MSN messages than in e-mails. Getting used to the difference between e-mailing with someone and chatting with someone also takes a while since your conversations will be different.
It's a bit like that for me too, except on a slightly different way. When I'm used to talking with my IRL friends either face to face or on the phone, it feels really weird talking to them on MSN Messenger, and our Messenger conversations just aren't the same as IRL conversations. Alternatively, there's a few people with who I've talked a lot in the university's IRC channels and queries, but I'm not really sure what to tell them when seeing them IRL. I'd say go with the way of conversation you two have got used to and what feels the most natural for you. :)