I don't trust myself to have good opinions because my father's "sex talk" with me was a prelude to sexually abusing me. I will defer to whatever Pike thinks. However, I would say my own inclination is frankness and openness from an early age.
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I don't trust myself to have good opinions because my father's "sex talk" with me was a prelude to sexually abusing me. I will defer to whatever Pike thinks. However, I would say my own inclination is frankness and openness from an early age.
Never had "The Talk", but sex was never a taboo subject in my house, so I guess I just gradually learned through various means. When growing up, there were never any 'Keep the door open when a girl is over' kind of rules, or any porn filters, and I didn't have to hide condoms or anything like that. I think it was just - "Enjoy it, and stay safe".
And I've always followed that rule.
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Originally Posted by Pike
High school was about when I became interested, honestly, but I was a bit atypical, I suspect.
As for the subject, my parents gave me books and things, but I can't remember how old I was or whether it happened before or after sex education started at school.
When I was in School we were about 10 when people gave us the first round of Sex Education. I remember it was a year 6 thing though at that age you really only covered the basics of what a penis is, what a vagina is, the pregnancy cycle and how a woman gives birth. You did it again in Year 9 which is when they went in to more details about safe sex and sexual diseases along with other bits and pieces such as chromosomes and why genetics can cause problems, why sex with your family members was bad.
That being said, most of the people I hung out with in school were older than me by a couple of years. As such, I learnt a lot more through them than in class. I remember a couple of the girls in year 10 trying to convince 11/12 years old me (I was year 7) that if I kissed a person I could get STDs etc. They weren't actually lying when you think of oral herpes but it was pretty smurfed up stuff to hear from a couple of 14/15 years old girls behind the art department. (They used me as a lookout whilst smoking, in return I didn't get bullied when with them. One of them was also responsible for teaching me how to kiss haha).
With my dad dead from the age of 3 and my mom never going on a date or so much as looking at another man I've never really had the talk from family. I remember my mom wanted my brother to say something to me at the age of 15 or 16 when we went away as a family for holidays. My brother's response to that was on top of a cliff to toss a pack of condoms at me and simply say "Stevie, if you're going to smurf any of the birds, make sure you put one of those one first. Remember, the roll goes on the outside so it goes over your dick easily." and walk off.
No talk, and there was no sex ed. I don't know how I or when I figured it out. Maybe I still haven't. I've got three kids, but maybe they're not mine and I wasn't doing it right all along!
Maybe I should've watched the video.
I never had a talk from my parents. My doctor did give me sort of a "talk" when I was 12 or so, but that was more of a safe sex spiel about condoms, birth control, and STDs rather than sex itself.
As for kids, I think it depends on the child. Ideally, I don't think there even would be a formal "talk," but instead having an open, uncensored environment where the child would feel free to initiate any questions or conversation on the topic as they're raised (instead of the common and ridiculous US strategy of actively trying to shield children from any type of sexual information). Though I think it would be a good idea to emphasize safe sex at a certain point.
I asked Danielle about this the other day. Probably early, especially if it's a girl because if we have a daughter growing up with Danielle's genes then she's going to be getting interest from guys a little earlier than she reasonably should. But the big thing these days is the internet. If you want to teach your kids before the internet does, you gotta get in their pretty damned quick. Danielle will be pretty upfront about it all and I think I'll probably leave it mostly to her.
I don't remember getting the talk.
I got sex ed in school. In terms of when to tell my children when I have them? Probably along the same lines as BoB. I haven't thought about it really until reading these posts.
I never got the talk, the closest thing was when my aunt took me and my brother to see a live showing of Rocky Horror when I was twelve and he was nine. I didn't really get it, I just liked that I got to throw confetti and shoot squirt guns.
probably at conception. it's best to get the ideas about proper sexual abstention ingrained in them when they're a zygote instead of when they've grown up into a fetus where they're much less likely to listen to their parents
I just imagined a dude screaming into a woman's vagina. "All OF YOU! DON'T DO WHAT I JUST DID!!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Denmark
Someone volunteer to do this and post the play-by-play of the fallout with the gf.Quote:
Originally Posted by SephexI just imagined a dude screaming into a woman's vagina. "All OF YOU! DON'T DO WHAT I JUST DID!!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Denmark
Bubba, we're counting on you.Quote:
Originally Posted by chionosSomeone volunteer to do this and post the play-by-play of the fallout with the gf.Quote:
Originally Posted by SephexI just imagined a dude screaming into a woman's vagina. "All OF YOU! DON'T DO WHAT I JUST DID!!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Denmark
Oh god no, are you crazy? Do you want Bubba to die? Not to a pregnant lady. Otherwise, Bubba would be the man to go to, but we missed our opportunity there. No, I mean someone who hasn't knocked his lady up.Quote:
Originally Posted by ToriJBubba, we're counting on you.Quote:
Originally Posted by chionosSomeone volunteer to do this and post the play-by-play of the fallout with the gf.Quote:
Originally Posted by SephexI just imagined a dude screaming into a woman's vagina. "All OF YOU! DON'T DO WHAT I JUST DID!!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Denmark
No, of course not. :shifty:Quote:
Originally Posted by chionos