Omg the neighbors tried to hit you and you BIT them? XD You are my new hero :p They shouldn't be hitting little kids anyway, especially ones that aren't theirs.
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Omg the neighbors tried to hit you and you BIT them? XD You are my new hero :p They shouldn't be hitting little kids anyway, especially ones that aren't theirs.
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Originally Posted by Chris
If it is spanking other kids that's fine.
The right way? Just some times.
Consequences? Those kids could spank their parents later in life.
I am a "kid" and I am spanked by my stupid mother. I'm 13 you take your conclusions.
Anyone's who's ever been to the Best Page in the Universe knows exactly what's up.
Never have been, and don't think of it as a good way to teach children. Then again, as I've never had it done to me, I'm obviously a bit biased on the subject.
The opinion of most childcare professionals is thus:
There is a difference between a spanking intended to cause pain, a spanking that uses an object, a spanking to humiliate, and a swift swat on the butt. Our job as adults is not to harm or humiliate children, but to teach them. When they're still in diapers they've got padding, so as long as you're not really pissed off or strong-arming it, a swat on the butt is an effective way to get their attention when used sparingly, and coupled with an explaination of what's happening.
Punishments (those things that cause children pain, guilt or humilation) are not substitutes for guidance and discipline (those that teach), and if an adult treats them as such then they're doing they're doing humanity a great disservice.
This has been discussed in so many of my classes I could practically write a code of ethics book for spanking. :p
Thank you, Shlup. That's my stance on the subject. I can count how many times I've spanked my daughter on one hand. They were all when she was doing something dangerous and she had plenty of padding on her bum at the time as well.
A grown person hitting/spanking a child is just wrong. I think my daughter is just fine without having any spankings and she isn't a little princess, Yams. :)
Well, I got spanked quite a bit when I was young, and I turned out... oh wait, forget it, nevermind. :D
I just can't stand these parents that give their kids whatever they want. I just feel like ringing them by the neck and calling them fools.
I got spanked a lot as a kid. It worked very well. As Del Murder mentioned, after a few spakings the fear of a spanking starts to kick in and then you don't do bad things because you don't want to get a spanking. After the kid gets older than they become less than effective. Thats when you have the groundings and corners and other things.
To Yams: Parenting isn't a deal where you either hit your kids or you spoil them.
To theundeadhero: The goal of discipline is to teach. Physical punishments don't teach "I should not throw my food, I should eat my food because that's the appropriate thing to do," it teaches "I should not throw my food because I will be hit, and I do not like being hit."
Obviously a couple of spankings isn't going to raise psycho-killers or anything, but there are simply better things to do. You want your children to internalize good things, not behave out of fear of pain.
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To theundeadhero: The goal of discipline is to teach. Physical punishments don't teach "I should not throw my food, I should eat my food because that's the appropriate thing to do," it teaches "I should not throw my food because I will be hit, and I do not like being hit."
Let's say a four year old is throwing her food. The parent can choose to give their daughter a whippin or to send her to the corner.
When you give them a whipping they understand that they got a whipping for throwing their food instead of eating it. They will learn that it's wrong to throw food. The fear of a spanking is reinforcement so that the girl doesn't keep throwing food even though she knows it's wrong. She still learn whats right. It's the fear of a spanking that helps her to choose the right thing to do instead of the wrong.
Sending her to the corner is just a lesser form of the same thing. She learns that she had to go to the corner because she was throwing her food. She still learns that throwing her food is wrong, but the fear of standing in the corner is much less than the fear of getting a whippin, so she is more likely to do it again.
I know if my Mom told me I would get a whippin if I did something I was much more inclined not to do it than if she told me I would go to the corner. Going to the corner didn't seem all the bad. Whippins were the worst thing in the world! :eek:
Give them love and they wont necessarily see it as a reward of behaving badly, but rather start loving others.
I dont believe in behaving out of fear, but out of love.
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EDIT: 535 after a few minutes of trying