I went on a date with Timmy the elephant once and it went bad because we have a communication breakdown. :(
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I went on a date with Timmy the elephant once and it went bad because we have a communication breakdown. :(
One day Christmas is gonna get the undeads.
Why girls only? Is it some expectation that only girls can have bad dates despite a certain other major gender being expected to shell out the cash to pay for ALL of it regularily?
Man, the girls you go out with must suck.
I never let my boyfriend pay for everything. :p
heck it's the 21st century and they still won't offer to pay for anything unless we bring it up so...
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I haven't really had a BAD date...mediochre, sure, but not BAD.
What the heck. Are you kidding me?Quote:
Originally Posted by Araciel
look at this face: :mog: that's my serious face
no, i'm not kidding...and you think i'm going to actually SAY 'please pay for your own food'?
(not in so many words, but it would still be in bad taste)
i don't mind paying for everything, i just don't know that with all this gender equality and inequality...(girls making more than i do) that it should even be a thorn in my side to think that asking is rude
Archaic, that.
My boyfriend and I usually share the cost of whatever we do. Like, I'll buy snacks and he'll buy movie tickets, and it ends up being pretty equal.
Haha, now that my bf and I have been dating a couple years, we go "Okay, so you're paying, right?" "Hey!"
But when we first started going out, it was more like "Kk I'm paying for this!" "No, I am!" "No, me!" xDD
if by archaic you mean etiquette that hasn't been used in 35-40 years, then yes it is.
but answer this: aside from flat-out asking or waiting for an awkward moment when the cheque arrives, how am i supposed to know what to do, especially taking into account that this person isn't my girlfriend
If this person isn't your girlfriend and you're not comfortable talking about who pays, the general rule of thumb is this:
If you asked the person out, you offer to pay.
If the other person asked you out, THEY should offer to pay.
That's good etiquette.
well that sounds about right then
That's working under the assumption that I get dates :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Miriel
But on the few dates I HAVE been on, it's always been my money.
i think a lot of it has to do with that exciting uncomfortable feeling you have when you have chemistry with someone new, or don't even yet know if you do or not.
when i'm with someone new, i don't want to even think about money, i want to focus on her anyway, so the point of paying for the meal, movie (horrible date anyway...) or social activity we're involved in to me just seems like it takes us out of the whole scenario for a second if i have to even wonder
will she pay or will we split it or pay for what each of us got or whatever...
but your simple solution, miriel, seems to make sense to me...been out of the loop for a while heheh