Just say it whenever it feels necessary.
Just say it whenever it feels necessary.
Don't even say it if you *do* mean it, unless you want her to start assuming that you're going to move in together, get married and have kids. In my limited experience anyway. And once you've said it once, it'll break her heart if you don't say it at least once per day thereafter.
With me - I did mean it. BUT - I didn't want to get into an actual serious/long-term relationship for various reasons. However that's the expectation that was created (she had our whole lives planned out within about 5 minutes including how many kids we'd have and was straight onto babynames.com), and it was difficult to backtrack. If you do make that mistake, let them know early so that you don't string them along.
I think it's a matter of defining 'love'. I love my male friends, but that doesn't mean I'm homosexual and it doesn't mean I want to marry them. If you say you love a girl, they tend to use the "you're my soulmate, let's get married" definition. Be careful.
As I recall, I think she said it first in my case. It's such an awkward position to be in - you tend to feel pressured to say "aw, I love you too" so that you don't hurt her feelings. I don't know any decent cop-out for that... I'd probably just say "aw, that's nice" and if pushed on the subject then admit that you're not ready for the commitment that the 'correct' response would imply. Might hurt her a little, but better than stringing her along letting her think you're soulmates then admitting it 11 months later.
The poll results so far are spot-on: Either "Never" or "Every day" - whichever is appropriate to how far you want to take things.
I like to be told once a day, but I don't mind a little more or less. It can never get old if he means it every time.
By the time comes to where one truly means those three particular words, you both know that the other loves you.
So really, "I love you" is a terribly redundant phrase, but one that most definately feels woderful to both hear and say.
But why is nice to hear? Why when it is so terribly redundant and you both know already? To be perfectly honest, I don't know why exactly, but my guess is that it's a way of upkeeping an oath and devotion of sorts, or perhaps its like a kiss or embrace with deeper meanings.
Personally, I say it once a day or perhaps more. I particularily enjoy telling her such a thing before she sets to bed. I don't really think there is any limit or required amount for it's terribly relational. One couple may say it thirty times a day and mean every one and never be bothered by its count. Whereas if I were to tell my girlfriend that I loved her thirty times a day, it would annoy both her and me.
But in many ways, I do say I love you thirty or so times a dy, just not in the verbal sense. As do all loving couples, I am sure.
More than anything, it's the matter of conviction and care behind those words and actions that ought to matter - not the recorded amount of times said or done.
Cheers Sephirothishere :thumb: I am glad you are here to show wisdom too :) It is wise to show our experience with dozens of women to those who are less lucky in sampling the delights of Beautiful Goddesses!Quote:
Originally Posted by sephirothishere
There is something I forgot to mention earlier on. A very simple philosophy but an EXTREMELY accurate one. For you see, with women ya gotta...
Treat 'em mean so you keep 'em keen :mad2:
It is true! :eek: No matter what hot chicks say, they WANT a bad man! They don't like sensitive men who treat them like princesses. No siree. They want REAL men! :mad2:
Let me give you an example. About 2 years ago I was with this totally hot chick. She was tall, blonde, blue-eyed and had a great rack. If women are like cars, then this chick was like a Ferrari! :eek: Very hot chick indeed! And she was totally into me. She worshipped the ground I walked on, but your friend Devil Man knew how to handle her. Meanly!
One night, at about 12:30am in the morning, after having some FANTASTIC sex, your friend Devil Man was feeling very hungry. He was starving! I couldn't be bothered to cook because the act of making love had made me very tired. Never-the-less, Devil Man was very hungry and needed food! So he did the sensible thing.
He told his Beautiful Goddess to get dressed and get him a Pizza from outside :) And she'd have to go herself because I sure wasn't gonna let her drive MY brand new Mercedes. No way!
She moaned a little bit, but she didn't want to make me upset, so she put on her bra, put on her clothes and went out in the cold, windy weather to get my Pizza. Then she returned half-an-hour later with my Pizza. Good girl! And good Pizza :drool: I even let her eat a slice!
After I finished my Pizza, I felt very tired and sleepy. But then I also decided something else.
I didn't want my Beautiful Goddess in the house anymore because I was a little bit bored of her by now. I wanted to have a nice peaceful sleep because the next day was a Sunday. Your friend Devil Man needs a rest!
So Devil Man told his Beautiful Goddess to get outta his house!
That's right. He told her to go home because he didn't want her company anymore. And I wasn't gonna drive her home either. So she sadly left my house at 2:00am in the morning and had to get the Bus home all alone.
Now... you'd expect that the Beautiful Goddess would have dumped me after all this, right?
WRONG! :eek:
She carried on dating me for another 2 months because she liked being treated mean :mad2: Even after I dumped her and got a new girlfriend, she still came to me for sex. And I obliged because I felt a bit sorry for her :)
So there you have it.
Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen!
Never say 'I Love You'
Because then girls will be totally into you!
Was she inflatable?
If you want to keep her you need to end every spoken thought with "I love you." :love:
At the very least that will get her to stop asking "Do you love me?" or "Why don't you love me?" the two most dangerous, annoying questions in the entire world.
No. But her boobies certainly needed inflating. Your friend Devil Man dumped the Beautiful Goddess because he was disappointed by the miniscule size of her rack. :(Quote:
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She had a very nice personality :)
... but she had tiny fun-bags :(
So she had to be dumped. Devil Man blames Mother Nature.
Man, you sure do like pissing off half of the world's population.
i think a guy should say it anyway it dont matter how many times as long your both happy
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Originally Posted by Devil Man
You should say it when you mean it. If she's desperate for you to say it, something is wrong.
more than 20 times a day! At least James always tell me that he loves more than that! ^^" *blushes*
Whenever it feels right. D:?
Ditto. You can't set any one number. If you feel it...just say it.. that's all i can suggest.Quote:
Originally Posted by DK
Only say it if you mean it