I think I pissed my girlfriend off again.

My girlfriend and I were digging through the closet the other day, just curious to see if there was anything fun or interesting to be found, when we came across this notebook filled with pictures and love letters from an old girlfriend of mine.

Girlfriend: Who's this?
Me: Oh, that's Rachel.
Girlfriend: An old friend of yours?
Me: Old girlfriend. She was my... sixth, I think.
Girlfriend: ... why do you still have this?
Me: Why wouldn't I? I mean, if we ever break up, I'll keep all my photos of you.
Girlfriend: You're not supposed to keep things like this.
Me: Why not? I loved Rachel. The days I spent with her were some of the best of my life.
Girlfriend: ... Well... you don't look at this often, do you?
Me: Not really. Once a month, maybe... two or three times if I'm feeling extra nostalgic.
Girlfriend: ...
Me: Aww, are your silly female emotions playing tricks on you? I'm with you now, so get over it.

Yeah, I guess I was kind of rude there at the end, but it annoyed me that she can't trust me, so I had little desire to be pandering. The matter was dropped afterwards, but I wonder... did my girlfriend have a valid point? Is there something wrong with me keeping those kinds of memories? If she's that insecure in our relationship, maybe I should throw that book out...

What do you think, Eyes on Final Fantasy? How do you deal with the issue of keeping love letters and pictures from your ex-partners?

Didn't this same exact thing happen last time you made a thread like this?


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I don't think so, Jess. It's a rather different scenario.

You're a jerk.

once a month is. . kinda often? once a year or every two might not be so bad. I still have some mementos from former relationships but they're mostly embarassing xD

I never wrote or received any love letters! :p

As soon as you get a new girlfriend you are supposed to gather up all mementos of past relationships and burn them in an oil drum. I thought everyone knew this.

Is this the same girl you pissed off last time? If so I'm sure she'll get over this one too.

I think you both overreacted a bit. She shouldn't have thought so harshly of old momentos and you should DEFINITELY have not said "silly female emotions". You can keep old letters and such, but looking at them so often might be a little concerning on her part. Maybe she thinks that you miss you old girlfriend or she's not doing enough to gain your full attention. If you have a great deal of old stuff from your ex, maybe you should keep only a few that mean a lot to you. It's okay to have reminders of your life, but maybe you should let some go. Oh and let your current girl look through them and stuff, so it feels more open and honest.

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Originally Posted by Bert

I never wrote or received any love letters! :p

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He's not lying about one of those things. He really hasn't ever written any. But the receiving part, maybe. :p

If I were your girlfriend and I knew that a few times a month you were going back and looking over love letters from your ex-girlfriend, I would dump you on the spot.

Sorry, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who was so clearly not over their former relationship.

Keeping the letters is fine, and your girlfriend shouldn't have been surprised or angered by that. It's also fine that you look fondly back on those times with your ex. And maybe looking at those photos and letters once or year or something might be ok. But once a month? Sometimes even more than that? What's up with that?

And that last comment about silly female emotions and telling her to "get over it"? That should've earned you a kick in the nuts.

Is this still that same girlfriend from this thread?

http://forums.eyesonff.com/general-c...riend-off.html

She must really love you to still be with you. I'd have dumped you long time ago. You still haven't realized that your girl should come first. Sorry if I'm too blunt.

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Originally Posted by RingzTerritory

You're a jerk.

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Basically. I wonder, do you have fun belittling your girlfriend and her feelings? I agree with Miriel, especially about the "once a month" thing. That's kind of weird imho~

I think maybe if you showed your girlfriend a little more understanding and less obnoxious contempt then maybe she wouldn't be so pissed off at you all the time.

Now pour soda into her lap or her hair! =O

I heartilly agree with previous comments. Yes, of course you should be keeping things from previous relationships - to throw away a part of your life like that would be pointless, painfull and realy unecessary. However, if you're looking at it once a month then that's really an indication that you're not over that relationship.

You need to ask yourself "If this ex-girlfriend asked me to get back with her again, would I do it?" If you don't think 'no' in a heartbeat, you need to have a serious think about whether you're with the right girl.

And those 'silly female emotions' you talk of are insulting. I'd suggest that if you want to remain in a long-term and fulfilled relationship, you drop the masochistic rubbish and act like a boyfriend, not like you're putting up with your girlfriend for the sheer hell of it.

I have pics of my ex's on my wall. But then, I'm single so yeah.