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I am guilty of joining them, though. Honestly, the experience was pretty terrible. Though, I ended up making a killer profile on OkCupid. I also write absurd blogs on there. Check it out if you like. Anyway, the topic is: What do you think of dating sites?
(if there is no poll wait for it)
Forgot to link it up: OkCupid.com: Sephex / 27 / m / straight / Flossmoor, Illinois
For people who are desperate enough, but can't afford a hooker.
I think those e-harmony commercials are phony. If you pay attention to their married date, every one of them is the same. It's either 07/07/07 or anytime in 07.
I think they're nice http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i2...cup_Poster.gif Seems like a perfectly viable way to get hanky panky for some people to me. I mean, as long as you actually move to the other person at some point.
I once took a quiz on a random site and they made me sign up to see the result. Then like six months later I was googling my name and found I had apparently made a profile on the site which was a dating site. That was a nice experience. http://i26.:bou::bou::bou::bou::bou:...ou:/4hwbaq.gif
Sephex, I love your blog. :)
my uncle met his current wife on there. I think I prefer interests-based online dating, though!
Dating sites... isn't this one?
So THATS why scrumpleberry keeps trying to ask me out...Quote:
Originally Posted by Goldenboko
After reading your blog I am wondering why this site doesn't work for you.
That poll has only 1 correct answer. :p
I think they are afraid of my array of special powers. Also, thank you Leeza.Quote:
Originally Posted by Guardian XIII
... I signed up on eharmony but as a joke and I didn't buy their service.
=/ I'm lonely enough that I considered signing up on another site.
I like to wait until they throw that line out that's something like, "20,000 people joining everyday..." then I calculate how long it's going to take before everyone on the planet is signed up according to that information. :p
That has to be it. There can be no other explanation!Quote:
Originally Posted by SephexI think they are afraid of my array of special powers. Also, thank you Leeza.Quote:
Originally Posted by Guardian XIII
Some girl seriously just messaged me on there. I told her that I like to get drunk and sing in Rock Band when she said something about my Guitar Hero pictures. I am the charmiest guy ever. Also, this hangover won't go away.Quote:
Originally Posted by Guardian XIIIThat has to be it. There can be no other explanation!Quote:
Originally Posted by SephexI think they are afraid of my array of special powers. Also, thank you Leeza.Quote:
Originally Posted by Guardian XIII
Most of a millennium.Quote:
Originally Posted by oddler
Space Voice: In the year two thousand nine hundred, there will be no singles... All children will be born into a world with their mates according to technological breakthroughs in science (echo, echo)!
in the year twentyfive twenty five. . .
20,000 people join, but what is the breakdown. My secret sources say the following.
It's 562 new people, 12 people with multiple personalities so they count more than once, 3 animals that people sign up, 25 12 year olds from 4chan making troll dates, 250 pedophiles going after the 4chan 12 year olds, 3 cops going after the pedophiles, 172 people who forgot their old password, 1000 people who found a mate then broke up so they went back, and the rest are ad bots and employees who make accounts to boost numbers.
They're retarded. D:<
Dating sites are pretty stupid imho. I mean sure ok so some people claim they don't have the time to go meet girls/guys whatever the hell they like dating...monkeys and dogs included. I believe it's a case of if you truly want to be with someone you'll MAKE time to go meet people and socialise and meet someone. Especially when you're still quite young. I'm currently working 7 days a week (again...HMV are dicks and I've got a few issues to sort) most weeks. I have 2 jobs both of them primarily make me work in evening hours, 1 finishes at an early 21:00 latest finish. The other in a restaurant can end at 01:00 or even 02:00 Most of my weekends are in the restaurant so I don't get to go out until 20:30 or later on a Friday and not at all really on a Saturday or Sunday. I went out and met a girl still. Ok so I lie I met Ewa before I worked 2 jobs, both evenings and 7 nights a week. However since I started these hours I've been out with friends and managed to get girls interested in me enough to ask me to go grab coffee with them sometimes. I've even managed to get given numbers of girls when I'm serving them and once in HMV I ended up with a girl I left a suitable impression on going to the extent of tracking me down on facebook to find me and get in contact. If I have found time to get girls interested whether or not I have acted on those interests I am sure there is time for EVERYONE to go find someone. If you can't find someone who likes you then I am not so sure it's them or a lack of time it's the vibes/feelings you give off and that you make people feel about you.
I like them! I got married and have twelve children!
i had some russian fun on those. this one chick strung me along for two months then asked for 900$ to come to america.... then the next girl showed a picture and it was the last girls "mom"
its fun to see what they can come up with
So I figured, "Why the hell not!" and signed up on this site of magical magic.
So this dude I used to know from High School messaged me. xD Wonder what will happen.
Yes. This. I am reading it instead of working and dying of laughter.Quote:
Originally Posted by Leeza
I didn't even realize there WAS a blog section. Holy cow, Sephex. xD That just made my morning.
My dad has been on some dating sites, met like all douchebag women but one.
Personally I like going the route that myself and others my age, and even a little younger have gone.
Find love through a community who shares the same general interests.
I ended up finding my husband after frequenting msn chats, then group chats then Oasiz chats (basically moved along the chats with a group of people) all based off the same thing.
What is bad about them? I don't see anything wrong with them at all. I haven't signed up for one myself, but I see it as just another way of meeting people.
I don't particularly see anything wrong with them, if used in the right way. Preying upon lonely people for their money kind of pisses me off.
(SPOILER)That guy from e-harmony is eviiiiiil, dunno why he just is
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Originally Posted by Rocket Edge
I don't have any problems against them at all. I think they can work sometimes, and I actually used to be a member of one for bisexuals/homosexuals - it didn't really do anything for me, other than some internet flirting and stuff, which is also neat.
This thread makes me sad. I've joined like four sites (over the course of like 5 or 6 years) and got squat. Bah humbug. There is no Christmas
Yeah I dunno where she is :(
I am against the idea of dating sites. What it says about people these days is that they are more comfortable meeting someone online then going out there. Being a male, I think this is a result of lower testosterone today which leads to lack of manly courage in some males.
Check out Gary Brodsky Teaches How To Seduce, Pick Up and Dominate Any Woman. This guy knows a :bou::bou::bou::bou: load about how feminism is effecting us.
EDIT: Iceglow mentioned some people not having time to go out and meet girls/guys. This is no excuse. For example, a man. Everywhere he goes there will be women, at the grocery store, the gym, on the bus, the street, at work depending on occupation. Conversations can always be started. Iceglows mention of him still getting numbers and interest etc is proof of this.
fire_of_avalon & Fuzakeru: Thanks. My friends (especially edczxcvbnm) really look forward to when I write them. I took a break on writing them up until recently, but I do try to update it two or three times a week now. The more people read them the more I write them!
The saddest thing about this is that he is absolutely right. Women actually are that smurfed up.Quote:
Originally Posted by The Last Oath
They are hilarious.
A bunch of women post profiles and wait for guys to approach them. Then they reject them based on whatever suits their fancy.
I have openly admitted that I have used gay-dating sites to find guys. I'll admit that there are a lot of guys there, just looking for sex. You can find some pretty cool guys though. I haven't really have any success (for a boyfriend at least, getting laid though I have a few times) though I have made some pretty cool friends along the way.
As a gay guy sometimes it is hard to find someone. Not all of us frequent the local gay areas of town and some of us aren't into that scene. I know there are other things you can do, like get involved in queer-specific types of groups, but sometimes it is not so easy.
Dating sites can be a useful tool to meet people, but you should always keep your eyes open because sometimes the most random coincidences will lead you to someone. Life is weird like that.
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Originally Posted by The Last Oath
Are you guys retarded or are you... retarded? That's the only reason I can think of you would think any of that works.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aerith's KnightThe saddest thing about this is that he is absolutely right. Women actually are that smurfed up.Quote:
Originally Posted by The Last Oath
There's always Hannukah...if you're a jew that is :choc:Quote:
Originally Posted by Vyk
Nothing wrong with them, just not my thing. :jess:
I made a profile for a friend once. I learned more about him just trying to fill that out then I ever wanted to know :Eek:
I don't think there's anything wrong with dating sites. It might even be the best choice for some people. Everybody there is looking for the same thing, and you don't have to worry so much about people playing games/broken hearts than in real life, I would think...
But i'm only 15, what do I know? :bigsmile:
And I joined chemistry.com one day just so I could take there personality test! Apparently I am a Negotiator/Explorer personality type. I then deleted my account. xD
>>> My dad go to those sites a lot, (and it seems it works)..:D
Personally i have never been there, i mean you have to put a pic of yourself in the net right?, well thats something i`ll never do..
OkCupid.com: Sephex / 27 / m / straight / Flossmoor, Illinois
I wrote another journal if anyone is interested.
On topic: While that Gary guy did make me laugh, I really think that stuff mainly works on women that frequent bars/clubs/similar hangouts. I know this because every time I go into a Durbins or something, I see all these walking hard-ons practically rape women on the dance floor. I proceed to troll everyone by dancing. If they're is karaoke, I troll them by singing a Marilyn Manson song or something.
LOL!
The funniest dating ad ive seen!! Nicely done Sephex!
For those who don't believe in internet dating sites...
My child is almost 10 months old, when she's 20, DATING SITES, MEETING PEOPLE ONLINE, will most likely be COMPLETELY normal.
Now yes, some of us aren't that old, but I know that some of us still hold the traditional values that make us believe that face to face social situations are the only moral way to go about meeting people.
At this point, the internet is becoming that coffee shop people talk to each other at, it is that resturant that hosts the two people wanting to get to know each other.
While some of us may have our pouty faces on about it, we're going to accept that this method of meeting people is only going to get stronger.
When I would go to Barnes and Nobles, there were either people texting while reading a book, or on their computers drinking coffee. The only place that I can think of where technology wasn't brought into the social scene is like.. a bar.
I can't even say a resturant because there's been plenty of times my husband and I would go out to eat and you would have like girls eating at the other table, texting their respective person, then giggling about what was said in the text, and then having a conversation about the text. It's like there are two more people at the table, they're just in the cell phone.
Just saying the above to anyone who may be like "go out and meet people".
At this point, even for normal people, it's just alot easier and even less costly to go out to meet people.
I'd rather get intimate with a cheese grater than join a dating site. Not that I hate dating sites per se, I just really like injuring my genitalia.
I just joined for the tests and quizzes...no, seriously!
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Originally Posted by The Space Pope
LOL
Dating sites are hook up sites, period...
I went for the "get punched in the brain" option.
Best niche dating site ever: Farmers Only
I'm too scared/not desperate enough to join one.
So, my friend signed up for a military dating website, and she met this A1C from Britain and she thinks he and I would hit it off really well. Sounds all hunkydory, but I just don't like Engrish accents!!! And I'm happy being single and not having to worry about my looks. Should I give it a try when he gets back from his assignment (he's only gone for a month I think) or should I stay single?
Buy a goat and raise it as your own child. Your life will be richer, and tastier thanks to sweet goat milk, for it.
Never really thought it was my kind of thing and so I've not tried it, nor do I really wish to. I'd rather just meet girls in person and go from there, regardless of how much I luck I do or don't have. Just feel that that would be a better way to go about things. I don't have any problem with their existence or people using them, however.
Who needs dating sites when you have EoFF?
Whatever method people use to connect and find happiness is fine by me, I ain't gonna hate.
Took the words out of my mouth. No reason dating websites should be more frowned upon than any other method, if that's what people choose to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Miriel
In all actuality, I have no problem with them. The reason why my profile and blogs are intentionally bizarre is because I did give the site an honest try, but then I got sick of it. Instead of deleting my profile, I decided to have fun with it. The best part is that I seem to have more women talk to me now, oddly enough. I even ended up seeing someone in real life after my profile was changed to be the way it is now. She ended up being pretty complicated, though.Quote:
Originally Posted by RaistlinTook the words out of my mouth. No reason dating websites should be more frowned upon than any other method, if that's what people choose to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Miriel
Except for the whole physical chemistry/pheromone/body language thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raistlin
No matter how many videos or pictures you send, you will never be exactly what the other person expects you to be when and if you meet in reality. People tend to act a bit different online, sometimes in very subtle ways that can completely alter one's perception of them.
That being said, while I personally think it's an absolute last resort, though I just get hookers cause they're cheap and plentiful, I see no actual "problem" with online dating. I just find it a bit sad that we're taking the humanity out of humans, making personal interactions far less personal, etc etc, but that extends to texting and emailing and whatnot as well.
You have to start somewhere. Of course a lifelong relationship which only entails online communication is not as fulfilling, but something can progress from it. I've developed great friendships over the internet, and these people have turned out about the same offline as well.
I really hate the term "in real life" or "in reality." As if the internet is some fake world with fake people.
I agree with that. While I do like the internet, it (along with other technology) does take the humanity out of things. While I am not against dating sites as I have said a few moments ago, I would much rather prefer to meet someone by chance in real life. My most meaningful and "successful" relationships came from women I just happened to meet.Quote:
Originally Posted by The Space PopeExcept for the whole physical chemistry/pheromone/body language thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raistlin
No matter how many videos or pictures you send, you will never be exactly what the other person expects you to be when and if you meet in reality. People tend to act a bit different online, sometimes in very subtle ways that can completely alter one's perception of them.
That being said, while I personally think it's an absolute last resort, though I just get hookers cause they're cheap and plentiful, I see no actual "problem" with online dating. I just find it a bit sad that we're taking the humanity out of humans, making personal interactions far less personal, etc etc, but that extends to texting and emailing and whatnot as well.
As far as not knowing how a person is online v.s. real life, I don't really worry about that when meeting anyone off the internet for ANY reason because in my experience, the real them comes out on the first meeting, anyway. That's why I'll never get why people use "MySpace angles" or older pics of themselves. Do you honestly think that no one is going to notice that you look 30lbs heavier in real life? OR THAT YOU APPARENTLY NEVER BRUSH YOUR TEETH?! But that's another story...
I'm not saying it's impossible, but I see nothing wrong with growing a sack and walking up to a girl/guy and asking them out. Yes I know some people don't have relationships due to busy schedules but then again, if they didn't have time to meet someone, then they certainly wouldn't have time to date them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raistlin
It isn't? Uh...look who you're talking to for a perfect example, and nobody ever lies about anything on the internet be it with photoshop or simply using a fake name and avatar. Also the whole concept of humor on the internet does not translate will into the real world. You can hate the term all you want but it doesn't make my point any less valid.Quote:
I really hate the term "in real life" or "in reality." As if the internet is some fake world with fake people.
Did I say your point was invalid? :p You're disregarding what I'm saying in favor of what you think is "better." I'm not debating the merits of any specific method of dating or meeting someone, so you're attacking a nonexistant argument. I'm just saying that it is possible and there's nothing wrong with that.
People can be fake offline too, it's just easier on the internet. That doesn't mean that the people in front of the computers are fake or somehow matter less simply because they are doing someone online. People are still people.
EDIT: Also, you're picking a poor place to criticize meeting people online, consdering the number of lasting relationships that have developed here.
EDIT2:You're making the baseless assumption that people who meet someone online would see something wrong with that.Quote:
...but I see nothing wrong with growing a sack and walking up to a girl/guy and asking them out.
And you're assuming. I understand what you've said quite clearly but I simply don't agree with it. And if call that disregarding then I don't know what else to tell you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raistlin
Again, assumptions. I'm not "attacking", I responded to you saying it's just like any other method of meeting people when it clearly is not.Quote:
I'm not debating the merits of any specific method of dating or meeting someone, so you're attacking a nonexistant argument. I'm just saying that it is possible and there's nothing wrong with that.
Irrelevant semantics. Having a 'fake' attitude and having a fake identity altogether are worlds apart.Quote:
People can be fake offline too, it's just easier on the internet. That doesn't mean that the people in front of the computers are fake or somehow matter less simply because they are doing someone online. People are still people.
More irrelevance. The difference between here and say, match.com is that this site isn't intended for dating, if it happens then great. But actively looking for love online is a bit desperate or at the very least lazy any way you slice it.Quote:
EDIT: Also, you're picking a poor place to criticize meeting people online, consdering the number of lasting relationships that have developed here.
No, I made a fairly accurate opinion that people who typically look for love online have even admitted to not being good with relationships in reality, are anti-social, nervous, etc. And alot of those types admit it, so again, you can call it baseless, but it wouldn't make you correct, human.Quote:
You're making the baseless assumption that people who meet someone online would see something wrong with that.
Also, point out where I said that those types "would see something wrong" with what I said. Though yeah when you get down to it I believe that many of those people do in fact have a problem with doing what I said, otherwise they'd have a date by simply walking up to someone and striking a converssation up. You act as if there's no big differences between randomly chatting up a girl on myspace or whatever and doing the same in a park somewhere, so why's it so hard for people to do the latter?
I never said anything remotely like that. My only point is that either way, you're still talking to a real person, and it should be viewed as such.Quote:
You act as if there's no big differences between randomly chatting up a girl on myspace or whatever and doing the same in a park somewhere...
But the one proves that the other is perfectly plausible. What about people who have trouble talking to strangers in person? What about people who have tried dating in person and had trouble? What about people who are trying to find a relationship both offline and online, and are just being open to anything? It seems like you're casting a wide, sweeping judgment on all dating activity which starts over the internet.Quote:
The difference between here and say, match.com is that this site isn't intended for dating, if it happens then great. But actively looking for love online is a bit desperate or at the very least lazy any way you slice it.
It's pretty obvious we're not going to agree on this so I will leave it at this because srs posting is totally gay: while I do believe that yes, it is possible to find love online, I don't see it as probable or as good of an option as "traditional" methods. As I said in my original post, I don't have a problem with what others do, but personally I view it as an act of desperation and/or laziness. Too shy? Too bad, that's a copout excuse. I was shy as hell but one day I woke up and stopped caring about what the world thought of me. It's not hard.
Wait, who admitted that?Quote:
Originally Posted by The Space Pope
I can say a majority of people admit to hating cheese but it doesn't make it true. It could just be the people that I asked. roffle waffle.
Just saying, I don't hear big campaigns on how people are social inept talking about dating sites. So I don't understand where you got the notion of "people who look for love online have admitted". Where are you getting this that they admitted it?
Having been on a few forums prior to this one, in many different forms and entities, I've seen endless threads in which people discuss this very same subject and many people who date online will post something about "oh I'm too shy" or "I just give up" or what have you. Plus, look at the ads for some of those sites, you can tell that's their target audience with slogans such as "can't find love? are you always lonely?" I'm sorry but I find it incredibly hard to believe that anyone with an iota of self esteem would have a hard time meeting someone outside. Unless you like, live in the boonies or something where you're isolated, then I can see online dating being a viable choice.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lekana
I'm sorry but as a society as a whole, we don't project people to walk up to someone and tell them they find them attractive.
I'm shy but you wouldn't know it. I've had my share of boyfriends that I met through "real life" means. Doesn't mean they are better or worse than people I could meet online. In fact a lot of people tend to sway to the online means because the people they do walk up to and hit tend to turn out to be d-bags.
At least with the online dating you have basically a bigger coffee shop to meet someone in so you can be a little more or a little less picky.
I think negative Nancy just needs a love interest =3
And this is why if the person is of interest, you actually go and meet them. Dating sites function as a means to meet people with common interest in your area. If I actually had a cup of coffee or a drink with every guy I ever chatted to, that'd amount to a lot of money I don't have. Basically, you chat a bit to the person then you meet them if both parties are interested. That's where you get the body language and stuff. If things turn out good, then you go on more dates. If not, that's that.Quote:
Originally Posted by The Space PopeExcept for the whole physical chemistry/pheromone/body language thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raistlin
The best solution is for your parents to decide who is best for you and make you marry them at 18.
You and I both know that's a bad idea because all they do is pick girls anyway. :mad2:Quote:
Originally Posted by Noctiluca
That's why you have the love affairs.Quote:
Originally Posted by YarYou and I both know that's a bad idea because all they do is pick girls anyway. :mad2:Quote:
Originally Posted by Noctiluca
The system is the cure for sin and will stop all natural disasters.
I never said that, I said just go up and strike up a conversation, it can be about anything you just gotta pick a subject that feels right. See a guy and tell him you know someone with that same shirt even if you don't or whatever.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lekana
Point taken, but that can go both ways; maybe those people just don't have good taste or can't spot a dbag easily. Or maybe they're dbags themselves and haven't admitted it to themselves yet.Quote:
I'm shy but you wouldn't know it. I've had my share of boyfriends that I met through "real life" means. Doesn't mean they are better or worse than people I could meet online. In fact a lot of people tend to sway to the online means because the people they do walk up to and hit tend to turn out to be d-bags.
I guess that's relative. Like I said if it's in some small one horse town with a population of 200 then yeah I can see that, but I currently live in a large city so there's more than enough people to choose from.Quote:
At least with the online dating you have basically a bigger coffee shop to meet someone in so you can be a little more or a little less picky.
Not as big as Atlantis, mind you, or even the anceint Martian city of Zyzxfhsdogfu, but still big enough.
I'll stick with hookers and my three legged dog (I had to amputate because he kept runnng away and that's kinda painful when you're inside of an animal that's running around like an eight year old on speed), but thanks.Quote:
I think negative Nancy just needs a love interest =3
But being sinful is so much more satisfying.Quote:
Originally Posted by Noctiluca
I don't bother with the stuff myself because I personally don't have the time for it or don't trust anyone on line, but my mother lately has been on those sites.
I don't trust them and my mother has heard me talk about how stupid some teens are when they're on stuff like that. my mother has tried to make put pictures of her on her page, but I usually had pretended that I don't know how to do it. I only did it for her one time. My is a grown woman and all so I didn't try to preach or say anything about it to her at all, but damn, i should have.
My mother had left out last night, she didn't say with who or where it was about 6 or 7 o clock. I had stayed up to about 12:45 and wnet to bed. Her alarm clock woke me up at 4:30 and it buzzed for a while. Then I got tired and got up to see her bedroom door still open with no one inside. I was a little worried then, but I just cut the alarm off and went back to sleep saying she'll be here when I wake up.
When I woke up she's still not here. I'm worried now, for one she knew I had to go to school this morning and another she was probably with some strange dude she met on the internet who could've done anything.
I had called one of my cousins to see if she heard anything from her. She didn't and told me to give her about 9 to hear from her. It's hard for me to wait that long. I'm smurfing pissed here, if somebody hurt my Mama they better know their ass is going die!
Edit: I can't believe i said that with the avatar and sig that I have, but I'm extremely pissed here and I don't see how anyone else couldn't be.
Dang on I still haven't heard anything. I'm getting more worried.