Life long partner

Hi and hello friends! I haven't posted a thread in a while so today i will post about life long partner or significant other. What would you do if anything were to happen to them? I always fear for my SO because I have grown so close to him, he is my other half and true best friend and I am not afraid to share or talk to him about anything. If something were to happen to him I know that I will be very very sad and will never be truly happy ever again.I always let him know that and tell him to always take care and be safe in all things. I pray for his safety every single day. It made me realize how much he means to me and that I value what we both have for each other. Even though we have our up and down moment we still try and figure and work things out because of how we care so deeply for each other.How about you all?! can you share what are your fears for your SO.

I would be pretty sad. Then I would devote the rest of my life to figuring out time travel so I could go back and reverse whatever happened to her.

I try not to countenance the thought of something happening to Mr. Carny, to be honest. I mean, eventually, one of us will have to die first, but I'm trying not to think of old age just yet :p

I mean, he doesn't exactly have a dangerous career prospect (he does English Literature at University) so I'm not too worried about that.

I would be very sad and--

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What up to all my similarly single dudes and gals! We can party without consequence to avoid our crushing loneliness! smurf yeah!

As much as I love my significant other my life isn't just them, so I'd move on with my life and continue other pursuits that make me happy after a period of mourning. People who say "I can't live without so and so" why the smurf not? You at some point did.

I would be completely crushed if something did happen to Hubs, but it wouldn't be the end of the world. He'd want me to go on, and continue being happy. If I found happiness with another person, I think he'd be completely okay with it.

I dont think I'd ever want to be so attached to someone that I couldn't possibly live without them.

Not to say I don't like love. Indeed I love love!

I'd realize now I'd have to cook and kill my own bugs. That's when the devastation would really sink in; Somewhere between burnt breakfast and a spider keeping me out of the bathroom. Then I'd try to remember what it was like when I was self-sufficient, but hopefully I'm so old and crazy by that point I can't.

It would be terrible. I can't imagine living my life without my SO. Everything would change. All the things you do in life, that you don't even think about, would be irrevocably altered.

I mean, cooking, driving, writing, how do you even do that with one hand?

I'd be pretty crushed but I would stop mourning and move on at some point, because I know that's what they'd want me to do, and I them.

I can't even explain how devastated I would be... It would be horrendous. It would break my heart that James would grow up without knowing the most wonderful man. Urgh. I feel sick just thinking about it. Or anything happening to anyone you love!

Thanks all for responding, It just makes me feel that I am not the only one who feels this way, sometimes I have nightmares that involves my SO being hurt and when I wake up I get sad and I have to tell him about it. He says nothing will ever happen like that but still I get so worried and worked up about it. I just can't imagine the devastation it would bring if ever something happened. I don't know if I could ever have the strength within me to move on. But! I always pray that Escobert is always in the good path and out of danger's reach.

I care really deeply for my partner but not to the extent of praying everyday or figuring out time travel if things happen though. I would appreciate and utilize everyday I have with my partner to the fullest & the bestest. If the day comes when trout happened, the memories we had will lives on and either of us will comes to term with what happened and make peace with our inner self. I believe acceptance is the natural way of things.

High chance I will die alone as a cat lady.

Honestly, it's something I try not to think about. I'm pretty certain I'm the more unhealthy of the two of us, so barring freak accident, I am hoping to be okay on that front.

That said, I suspect I would probably really withdraw into myself and spend even more time in front of my computer screen than I already do.

Losing a partner is, without a doubt, the most destructive thing that can happen to me. I don't handle it well at all. It's happened on numerous occasions (not to death, but to breakup/divorce) and the last two times I discovered the wonders of what the doctors called "situational depression" or something like that. When I'm single, I'm depressed, and when I'm not single, I'm fine. However, the last breakup has put me to a point that I no longer have a real interest in finding someone new because of how poorly I handle breakups, and let's face it, I'm clearly not very good at keeping a relationship going for life. With this in mind I've kind of just put myself off of relationships entirely, for better or for worse. I won't be as happy but I won't get to the point of being suicidal again once the next one ends and that's what I've settled for in life at the moment.

But hey, thanks to my friends, family, therapy and doctors, I'm still here. Again, for better or for worse. :p

Bri, FWIW, I don't suggest going down my road, it's not a fun one! I would strongly suggest getting therapy if you are finding this is impacting your day to day life. You and your partner both deserve to understand any underlying reasons for why this is troubling you, so you can both help make your life a better one.

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Originally Posted by Del Murder

I would be pretty sad. Then I would devote the rest of my life to figuring out time travel so I could go back and reverse whatever happened to her.

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Ok, I lied. I may try the time traveling thing if given a chance. :cry:

I try not to think about it, but my partner and I have both said that if one of us died, it would give the other a great excuse to never date again :shrug:

In all seriousness, though, I have no idea how I'd handle it. I already have severe clinical depression, so probably not well. I'd try to get on with things as much as possible, but I'd probably become even more reclusive than I already am.

i would become a playboy and a gambler. looking for my lost love in the bottom of a glass of whiskey until that last chip falls to the casino and i walk into the desert