First Impressions.... How much do you judge people when you first meet them?

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10-15-2006, 10:48 AM
The Devil Man

First Impressions.... How much do you judge people when you first meet them?

Woo hoo! That is Devil Man's longest ever Thread title (I think).

As you all know... last night Devil Man had a great night! :spin: He went to a club called Walkabout in London with some friends of his. And while he was in the club...

AAAAAAAAAAALL the women were over your good friend Devil Man :love: Yes, it is true! They showered your good friend with kisses and cuddles, they stroked his wonderfully beautiful, handsome face with just a hint-of-stubble, they told him what a great dancer he is, they begged Devil Man to come to their homes and marry them so they could pop out his equally beautiful children, they told Devil Man how hilarious and how utterly charming he is and how they will never forget this magical night for as long as they live...

Devil Man was very happy! :love:

But he was also very sad :crying:

For you see... Devil Man's friends got no action at all! The ladies didn't even look at Devil Man's friends! :( When Devil Man tried introducing one or two girls to his friends, they refused point blank to even look at them (and instead begged Devil Man for more kisses ;))

Why is this you ask?

Because Devil Man's friends are butt-ugly :(

Yes... it is true... the ladies were not interested in being seduced by Devil Man's friends personality. You see... Devil Man's friends are very funny and great people... but they have not been blessed in the looks department at all :( Therefore... the ladies didn't care to talk to Devil Man's friends. They wanted to play with Mother Nature's favourite son: Devil Man!

It was so sad :( They judged on first impressions.

So Devil Man's topic is... Oh, my Beloved Friends on EoFF... how often do you judge people when you first meet them?

How important are First Impressions to you?
10-15-2006, 10:49 AM
Resha

People change. Therefore -- not very. Although they do have some sort of impact on how I view people initially, I find myself being wrong more often than not.

In bookstores though, I must confess, I prefer books with pretty covers as opposed to otherwise. There I am blatantly biased and I do judge books by their covers :(
10-15-2006, 10:54 AM
Rostum

First impressions are a big deal to me, I am a very judgemental kind of guy. But saying that, I will give people a chance and I will still get to know them -- chances are I like them more than I think.
10-15-2006, 11:01 AM
Christmas

EVERYONE I MET, IS A NEW FRIEND I HAVE.

Regardless of their first impression,they will still be my new best friends. :bigsmile:

ESPECIALLY LITTLE MANUS, LOL.
10-15-2006, 11:09 AM
Meat Puppet

I try not to judge people by first impressions, because I don't want them judging me like that. I try not to; I usually slip and judge someone pretty heavily on my first meeting with them. That's all right, though, because I'm usually right.
10-15-2006, 11:44 AM
Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow. I'm a fairly good judge of character, so I do tend to judge people quite quickly. But it's ok, because I'm usually always right.
10-15-2006, 12:03 PM
Polaris

I only judge women, never men! :D When I look at a face of some girls I think 'well I bet they are like that and that' but I try to know them better to see if I was right or not... Sometimes when I look at some girls just for the outside I stay away from them coz I imagine that I'll have problems with them! :D Most of the time I'm correct!
10-15-2006, 01:44 PM
Roto13

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow.

More shallow than assuming that someone's looks reflect their personality?
10-15-2006, 01:50 PM
Cz

I judge people really quickly. Sometimes I like to sort people I pass in the street into good people and bad people based on their appearence alone. And I'm usually right. :cool:
10-15-2006, 01:56 PM
Slothy

I don't judge someone based on looks. I base my first impressions on my first actual conversation with them. I try not to let that be the sole determining factor in what I think about them since you learn more about people over time, but if there's one thing I've learned it's that more often than not my initial judgement of someones personality is usually right.
10-15-2006, 01:59 PM
Alastair|UK

.igtf

i dont judge people at first impressions unkess its something i really dont approve of but thats probably because im am neither blessesd an is very butt ugly
10-15-2006, 02:16 PM
I Am Stoner

I don't judge people by looks, only by thier personality.
10-15-2006, 03:04 PM
Tavrobel

I give them the chance to prove me wrong.
10-15-2006, 03:07 PM
Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow.

More shallow than assuming that someone's looks reflect their personality?

Believing there is a link between the genetics that effect facial features an personality, is shallow? Why?
10-15-2006, 07:03 PM
Shlup

I may immediately develop a schema of what a person's all about (ie, judge them), but it's very flexible and it constantly changing as I learn more about them.
10-15-2006, 07:04 PM
Roto13

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow.

More shallow than assuming that someone's looks reflect their personality?

Believing there is a link between the genetics that effect facial features an personality, is shallow? Why?

Because you're judging people by their looks.
10-15-2006, 07:09 PM
BardTard

I don't usually, unless they seem to be really grumpy or really cheerful. Then my first impressions are usually right. And that only applies for my teachers cus I never really meet people.
10-15-2006, 07:18 PM
Twisted Tinkerbell

I'm very quick to judge people, especially men, but this is because of the way I was treated by people, especially men, for so many years.
10-15-2006, 07:21 PM
ama124

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Originally Posted by I Am Stoner

I don't judge people by looks, only by thier personality.
10-15-2006, 07:23 PM
escobert

Everyone sucks until I get to know them.
10-15-2006, 07:35 PM
LunarWeaver

I don't judge anybody by their appearance. I have to get to know someone before I think any of those thoughts. I've had friends from all the cliches across the board at one time or another. I actually find it kind of funny you can change someone's haircut and it will alter so many's reaction to them drastically.
10-15-2006, 07:37 PM
Spammerman

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Originally Posted by Resha

People change. Therefore -- not very. Although they do have some sort of impact on how I view people initially, I find myself being wrong more often than not.

In bookstores though, I must confess, I prefer books with pretty covers as opposed to otherwise. There I am blatantly biased and I do judge books by their covers :(

I agree. And totally, shiny book and good looking books(literally, not metaphorically) rock. Ugly ones dont.
10-15-2006, 07:59 PM
Shiny

I don't judge people on their physical appearance, because I know for a fact that looks can be deceiving.
10-15-2006, 08:05 PM
Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow.

More shallow than assuming that someone's looks reflect their personality?

Believing there is a link between the genetics that effect facial features an personality, is shallow? Why?

Because you're judging people by their looks.

I'm judging them on their personality. An using looks as an indicator as to what their personality is.
10-15-2006, 08:11 PM
~SapphireStar~

I always panic about peoples first impressions of me. But yeah, I think they are important cause it can determine whether or not you want to socialise with the person again.
10-15-2006, 09:05 PM
Shauna

I try not to judge people when I first meet them. But, I probably do, unknowlingly. xD
10-15-2006, 09:10 PM
Araciel

i always do. not that i want to, it's just natural. i allow them to prove my assumptions wrong if they can. if people only judge me from first impressions...meaning what they see, i probably appear as a big dumb jock...sooooo i hope they give me a second chance.
10-15-2006, 09:14 PM
Alive-Cat

I never judge people when I first meet them. In fact, I don't judge for a good long while, until I feel that I know them. Then of course I'll make assumptions on what kind of person they are.
This is because I am painfully shy around everyone new I meet, and therefore I would hate if they judged me by the first meeting. I'd usually be extremely quiet, not having anything to say. I'd give short answers, which I know gives people the impression that I'm not interested.
Although I'm amazing myself in that department, lately, by getting completely relaxed and being myself around a group of about five different new people in the span of one day. :love:
10-15-2006, 09:30 PM
Roto13

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow.

More shallow than assuming that someone's looks reflect their personality?

Believing there is a link between the genetics that effect facial features an personality, is shallow? Why?

Because you're judging people by their looks.

I'm judging them on their personality. An using looks as an indicator as to what their personality is.

That's the same thing. You're assuming someone with a certain kind of eyes has some kind of negative (or positive, for that matter) character trait. That's stupid.
10-15-2006, 09:32 PM
Araciel

i saw this one guy where i used to work, he was a regular. he always looked mean because his wrinkles formed a mean face, like he was always angry and his wrinkles had formed to that shape because he always looked like that. i avoided him as much as possible but after i got to know him i found out he was one of the nicest people in that place.

never can tell. it's in our nature i think to prejudge as a defense mechanism but whatever
10-15-2006, 09:34 PM
Vikeve

My friends are ugly lol

I guess we all do at some point but i try not to I always try to get to know someone before i shun them or something but then i always end up liking them cuz i don't shun people but you get the point.
10-15-2006, 09:34 PM
Jessweeee♪

I appear unfriendly or self-centered when people first meet me, but if you talk to my friends, they would say just the opposite :P
10-15-2006, 10:40 PM
Reles

I am constantly trying to a read a person when I first meet them. Since I usually put a huge wall and I don't find anyone that I meet very trusting, I'll pay attention to every little thing they do and say and make a decision on whether or not this person is someone I'd want to be around. It's funny how all my closest friends will adore this new guy they meet and after 20 minutes of knowing him I tell them that I don't like the guy at all. Then they're all "Oh god he's such a horrible person ;-;" three weeks later.
10-15-2006, 10:42 PM
Quindiana Jones

Some people say that you have to earn respect. It's not like that with me. I respect everybody fully, but if they have a bad first impression, then they need to earn that respect back. If you make a good impression, you keep the respect. But one slip up, and you gotta earn it back.
10-16-2006, 10:16 AM
The Real Dark Messenger

Hmm, let me see... no, first impressions never has mattered to me at all. I don't judge people very fast, I like to get to know them. I love meeting new people and therefore everyone should have a chance.
10-16-2006, 03:38 PM
Coronet

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

I only judge people on their faces based on facial analysis. Since I do believe certain facial features are attributed to certain personality traits. But I certainly don't judge who I should spend my time with based on how good looking they are. An to do so, is horribly shallow. I'm a fairly good judge of character, so I do tend to judge people quite quickly. But it's ok, because I'm usually always right.

I'll hope that's a joke.

Anyway, I usually judge people 80% on their character/personality and 20% on their appearance. Appearances, despite what people say, have a lot to do with how you perceive people. If you see a nicely groomed, pleasant girl, you are more likely to have a positive impression rather than a chick that looks like trailer trash with dried blood under her nails (just kidding on the dried blood part).

I believe the care that people take in their outward appearance reflects on their inward personality, which is not always the case but in many times, is.

Otherwise, I'm one of the most laid back people ever. I do not judge people before I have at least talked to them for a good period of time.
10-16-2006, 04:31 PM
Shaun

I don't really care. I find out what they're like sooner or later anyway.
10-16-2006, 06:12 PM
Jess

I don't judge people by the first time I meet them, I give them time to get to know them, first.

I hate it when people judge people without knowing them first, a lot of girls judge me before they know me. I have a lot of male friends, and am closer to most of my male friends than I am to my female friends, and when girls first meet me they usually assume I'm a whore, as I'm usually with boys. :-\ Although the impression doesn't last, so it's okay but I'd prefer it if people didn't do it at all. :jess:
10-18-2006, 01:55 PM
Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

That's the same thing. You're assuming someone with a certain kind of eyes has some kind of negative (or positive, for that matter) character trait. That's stupid.

No, it's not the same thing. Not associating with somebody because you think their ugly, is not the same as believing that facial features can be an indicator of personality traits.
10-18-2006, 04:55 PM
Zeldy

It cannot be helped. If I look at someone, and see an orange face, hair snatched back into a ponytail, and a horrid tracksuit I cant help but try and avoid them.

The same happens with me, people see my dark hair (NATURAL KTHX~) and my dark eyes and think "ew goff."
10-18-2006, 05:12 PM
Roto13

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

That's the same thing. You're assuming someone with a certain kind of eyes has some kind of negative (or positive, for that matter) character trait. That's stupid.

No, it's not the same thing. Not associating with somebody because you think their ugly, is not the same as believing that facial features can be an indicator of personality traits.

But it's every bit as stupid.
10-18-2006, 08:07 PM
Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

That's the same thing. You're assuming someone with a certain kind of eyes has some kind of negative (or positive, for that matter) character trait. That's stupid.

No, it's not the same thing. Not associating with somebody because you think their ugly, is not the same as believing that facial features can be an indicator of personality traits.

But it's every bit as stupid.

However, when giving a reason as to why something is wrong, saying: "That's stupid" is clearly evidence of inherent wisdom.
10-18-2006, 08:22 PM
boys from the dwarf

i can usually spot a chav or an asshole easily. with one glance at a guy i'd never seen before standing alone i knew he was some sort of chav or dick and later i found out he hung around with gits, bullied people and smoked under-aged. some people are easy to judge.
10-19-2006, 12:39 AM
Roto13

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

That's the same thing. You're assuming someone with a certain kind of eyes has some kind of negative (or positive, for that matter) character trait. That's stupid.

No, it's not the same thing. Not associating with somebody because you think their ugly, is not the same as believing that facial features can be an indicator of personality traits.

But it's every bit as stupid.

However, when giving a reason as to why something is wrong, saying: "That's stupid" is clearly evidence of inherent wisdom.

You want wisdom? Something I've learned. It didn't take long, either. Looks have nothing to do with personality. Unless someone has "I am a racist" tattooed onto their face, you can't tell anything without talking to them.
10-19-2006, 12:47 AM
Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

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Originally Posted by Anaisa

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Originally Posted by roto13-ness

That's the same thing. You're assuming someone with a certain kind of eyes has some kind of negative (or positive, for that matter) character trait. That's stupid.

No, it's not the same thing. Not associating with somebody because you think their ugly, is not the same as believing that facial features can be an indicator of personality traits.

But it's every bit as stupid.

However, when giving a reason as to why something is wrong, saying: "That's stupid" is clearly evidence of inherent wisdom.

You want wisdom? Something I've learned. It didn't take long, either. Looks have nothing to do with personality. Unless someone has "I am a racist" tattooed onto their face, you can't tell anything without talking to them.

That's your experience. In my experience, that isn't the case.

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