"I can't believe my friend doesent remember me"

So I was minding my own business when I get a pm from Girl who's practically a stranger to me, heck, she could be a serial stalker for all I know. The deeper we get, the more i realize one thing, she expects me to remember the "conversations" had and acts like she's got sand in her vagina when after such a long time, I can't remember who she is, at all.

I mean, it can't be her fault for not coming online because her boyfriend forbid it, or I caused her boyfriend to forbit it by coming onto her, which ever. The point is, has anything like this happened to you? Where someone makes you feel guilty?

Read my rant on male-female friendships, here:

http://forums.eyesonff.com/showpost....5&postcount=14

Some are "normal", whilst many will expect it to be almost like a romantic relationship where you're completely dedicated to them.

Hmm well it has happened some what similar to me. Except I had to drop talking to friends of mine for a while.

A few years back now (3) I used to speak to Xander a lot on here and sometimes over msn. Her life was great and I enjoyed her company online. My then girlfriend was insanely jealous of how close I was with Xander and actually jealous of any female company I had even though all the girls I was speaking to I had been speaking to since before we got together (most were her friends and stuff, after all the then girlfriend was a close friend of mine.) I actually stopped speaking to all girls privately even though in the group I got on with the ladies better than the men for this girlfriend. She however still managed to find time to cheat on me. Now I don't stop speaking to anyone if they don't want to stop talking to me people can afford to accept my choices.

Yeah. Happens to me all the time. It is called people from high school six years ago expecting me to know who they are despite the fact that their appearance is nothing like it was in high school(I look the same and have the same style). [img]/xxx.gif[/img][img]/xxx.gif[/img][img]/xxx.gif[/img][img]/xxx.gif[/img] Jim! If I wanted to talk to you I would have kept in contact with you. I don't give a [img]/xxx.gif[/img][img]/xxx.gif[/img][img]/xxx.gif[/img][img]/xxx.gif[/img] to 'catch up' with people who I have not seen for six year and may never see again.

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You just need to remember that everyone has different perceptions, so she might of felt the relationship was more special then you did. This is fine, but it is not ok for her to get angry with you because of it.

Give her time to be more understanding, but if she cannot, then it is prolly nothing to cry over.

I haven't forgotten anybody as of yet, thankfully! :jess:

Some people are worth forgetting!!:D :D :D Not saying this person is!!

As Timerk said, people have different perceptions. I think it'd be more likely to be the other way around with me. Though I wouldn't be all annoyed and stuff generally. I think I'd just be more sentimental about conversations than others. For example where one little thing might make me laugh on msn with someone ....I think it's really special, because you're talking to someone maybe so far away, but you've made each other laugh and I think those little moments are great.

Also, I'm pretty lucky that people I didn't speak to for a long time while being away from here are happy to speak to me again and I've been able to pick up some friendships. And those are the important conversations that I think both of us remember :)

I have an absolute horrible memory, and I forget people all the time. I also pretty much consider any friend I have as replaceable. That seems mean, but I don't really view friends as permanent for some reason...I always see them as fun for a while before we lose touch and I get new ones. I'm a weird operator of a very unique circus like that.

I have a horrible memory.
I've been known to meet somebody at school, have c good conversation, exchange numbers, whatever, and then see them a day or two later and totally forget who they are. Then everything's just awkward forever after.

I can remember faces not names.

Yeah, same here.

i hav no freindz :cry:

no, i have tried makin someone feel guilty though, lol, i dont think it worked,lol

One thing I made clear when I started a relationship with my now-ex, was that I have female friends and don't intend to drop them, and that I don't mind her having male friends - i.e. let's do what you're supposed to do in a relationship and trust each other.

It was early enough in the development stage to set 'ground rules' like that (and without actually saying so, make it clear that I'm not interested in anyone who's going to break any of my friendships)

I don't really remember the names of people I used to go to school with, so unless they were the friends I hung around with all the time I probably wouldn't remember them. I can't remember a time where I went up to an old friend that didn't remember me, but I wouldn't try to make them feel guilty if they didn't because I have a horrible memory.

There was a time though, where I went up to a girl I used to go to camp with. I saw her in a mall and went to talk to her. She remembered me and stuff, and it wasn't even that long ago that we went to camp together (this was around four or five years ago), but I just couldn't remember her name. The person who was with me was guilty AND embarassed in my place. :confused:

I have the thing with ex-classmates approaching me as well, it's been 6 years, people look waay different to what they used to, the short ones have become full height etc and they're like "Hiiii!" and I'm thinking "I'm supposed to know you?"

My mathematics c teacher today forgot my name. I was completely oblivious for a bit while I was working, until people were saying "You don't remember his name!?" Then I saw him looking at me with a confused look on his face. He started to walk over to me, with people yelling out 'Don't tell him!', and then my friend said to me 'Cover up your books, Mat.' Yeah, thanks a lot. You ruined out fun. :(

I couldn't really believe it, he has taught me for nearly a year, and the class is only 15 students big.

Females piss me off thier so needy and pathetic....but you do get the odd few that are reasonable... *cough lady of the sheep cough* :shifty:

I'm a minor celebrity. People come up to me on the street and know my name, and all I can say is, "hi, ummm... you".

A 17 year old male whose first name begins with 'm' - hmm *ponders*

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Originally Posted by Old Manus

i hav no freindz :cry:

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I forget a lot of people I befriend, especially those I met years ago. Well, I doubt I forget any I had any in person, but online, I'd be very friendly and say hello to everyone. Good thing most of the people I do remember, don't remember me at all, but I did talk to them a lot at one point or another. I guess my personality isn't distinctive enough to remember or something.

In any case, it's pretty much the story of my life if someone says I can't talk to someone, mainly because of jealousy within the relationship. Although I feel I have the right to speak to whoever I want so I've always disregarded it. I won't really be secretive about it though, friendships shouldn't ever be secretive.