Sex is a very interesting thing for my girl and myself, and most likely for many others as well. It's a very dynamic aspect of a relationship, as there seems to be countless things to explore and develop. Additionally, every person is different, and so one action taken during sex may be completely different than how it was with someone else.

A Missionary can be very different with different people, so I am told. I have only been in one sexual relationship - that being the one of now.


I think sex is a very good thing to have in a relationship. Is it needed? Of course not, but many find it pleasing and advantageous for obvious reasons. I mean, think on it:

It seems to me that a full and healthy sex life is spontaneous, adventurous, forgiving, passionate, and most of all, exciting. All of those listed - and more that I have most likely missed - are very lovely aspects of a what most would consider a working and/or healthy, full relationship with their significant other.

But I don't say this to mean that sex is needed to have a stable relationship, or that a stable relationship will give rise to a grand sexual lifestyle. Just an observation: interpret it as you wish.


As for that of myself, I love sex. I talk about it quite a bit, as one often does with things they enjoy. But it's also not the world to me either. I don't require it every day, and haven't come to expect it every day. I see sex as a spontaneous, almost whimsical thing that comes and goes with the mood (surprising, I know). Sometimes I will have sex three times a day, and other times I will go three days without having any form of sexual activity. A ten minute quickie, or the back-breaking two or three hour marathon sessions: it doesn't really matter, as I feel that one of the loveliest aspects of my sexual life is spontaneity.

It almost saddens me to see people try to schedule their sex life, for whatever reason. It takes an integral element of excitement from it, I believe. I can see how people will try to increase their sex life to have the feelings associated with sexual activity leak over into their daily lives and relationship; yet, to have it scheduled or expected on set days or times seems rather... backwards, to me.


It's my belief that sex is only what you make of it. Some may see it only as a fun and exciting thing to do with others - completely physical and whimsical in who and what and where and when. And others will feel that it is a sacred thing, to be had only with one select person. I don't feel that one is more right that the other, and see no real reason for others to pass their judgment on others for not agreeing with their choosing of lifestyle.

Personally, I feel that sex is something unique - something select and loyal to one partner. Mind you, I say this in the view of one partner at a time, not for life. Other than the small flap of skin that is ripped, virginity is what you make of it.




To me, sex feels as though it is innately intertwined with my love and affection towards my girl. I love her, and wish to please her in any form and method I can. She wishes the same, and so sex is a wonderful method of pleasing both. There is a passion and heartfelt cry as mad as love in the sweat and gasps. On the surface, it's purely physical, but in these actions taken, there is an underlying meaning that we both share. A personal, deeper, layered feeling that others cannot completely see.

The idea of having sexual relations with another for a purely physical reason is less appealing to me, but that doesn't make me superior to those that do.

I also know my partner from head to toe, inside and out. I know her as well as I know my own body (perhaps even better). There is a definite security in having that supreme familiarity of one another's bodies. Additionally, there is an excitement in discovering one another's bodies, exploring and searching under the covers. There is then made a history - often slightly humorous - had between the two lovers.


If you have not yet gathered, it is my belief that premarital sex is nothing of an atrocity, and ought not be a stigma. My only qualm is in concern to those who take part in sexual activities when young. Use condoms and contraceptives, for STDs and pregnancy are very serious things. You must understand the gravity of what sex can bring.

Marriage is simply an extravagant waste of money tradition anyways.




I don't think there is a limit to how much sex a couple ought or ought not to have. Really, it comes down to this:

If you desire sex so much that you feel you NEED it, then your love of sex has crossed over into the realms of addiction.

or

If the act of sex were to mean more to me than my girl, then I would be concerned.

Obviously, physical developments such as bruising or forms of irritation in the nether region should be an indication that the couple ought to try and cut back. But I have yet to actually meet anyone that has had sex to that degree.




I probably have a modest bit of sex, time permitting. I am only able to see my girl around two or three days a week, but in those days we see each other, it seems we often have sex once or twice, sometimes three times a day. Though, there are times when we have gone without sex for three or so visits without realizing it until much later.





Without blood or tears in skin, I don't feel as though I am having sex.