Love-heartaches fascinate me...

[Renmiri]

Did you just call me a jerk?

Huh.. No. I thought you were kidding in your post.

But yeah, to me people who like to play with someone else's lovesick feelings are jerks

So yes, she did. And I agree. But you are a bunny, which makes this beastiality, and like a monkey once told me, ok- some come here bunny. (lol double entendre.)

Oh well if it is with mutual consent... Carry on!

[Bunny]

Did you just call me a jerk?

Huh.. No. I thought you were kidding in your post.

But yeah, to me people who like to play with someone else's lovesick feelings are jerks

Nah, it's okay. I do play with people's emotions all the time. So see, I am a massive jerk. And I have never once denied it.

[Shlup]

I've never really had a crush on someone that didn't return my feelings. :o

My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard!

[black orb]

black orb /huggles That's sad ; ;

Body reacts weird when you crush on someone, takes over your life and your thoughts. I personally think it's unhealthy lol

Love makes you look at someone differently; simply cause it gives you a reprise from thinking and careing soley of/for yourself.

QFT. Definitely not healthy if it's unrequited but what can you do ? It's not like you can chose to fall in love only with the right persons... :rolleyes2

You can however, see who are the jerks that love to play with someone else's heartstrings and stay the hell away from them. This way you will never be their plaything

>>> I`ve had lots of crushes, but love is a whole different thing (I guess). I have never experienced such strong feeling.

[Christmas]

He HATES like me.

[Yuffie514]

i understand. that's why i turned to something better...

[Slade]

Story of my life, unfortunatly.....

Oh well, one day there'll be a girl who returns my feelings. I just hope I find that someone before I'm like, 50!

[Cloudane]

Ugh yup I totally see where you're coming from Peter.

I've had my fair share of crushes. I often end up liking the young ladies at work, which is mega mega bad bad (mixing business with pleasure is rarely a good thing, especially if they turn you down and you have to work with each other and all the awkwardness). Ironically I'm helping out my previous employer (kinda, they went bust as soon as I left haha! But some of the staff started their own company) this afternoon with the lass there who I've liked for about a year, and as we're not employed together any more I've been mulling over the idea of asking her out for a drink or something. She, and that possibility, dominated my head all of last night.

Logic says - to Hull with 'em, life's too short to spend entire nights not being motivated to do anything because you're too busy thinking what a wonderful person 'x' is when you don't even know them all that well.

However, Love and Logic are mutually exclusive, and it's usually the former that has power to override the latter, even though I'm normally a great believer in Logic and Common Sense.

[Peter_20]

For some reason I imagine that while I can feel like this for a girl, it feels really strange that a girl that's crushing on me should walk around and feel sick all day long.
It all feels too... much, somehow.

Straight question for everyone:
could a half-acquainted girl from my class that's crushing on me really feel bad all the time?
For some reason I imagine that she would just feel bad sporadically, and spend happy times with her friends the rest of the days.

[Cloudane]

Yeah it's just as tough when you're the subject of someone's affections and you're the one not returning it.

It's kinda freaky and a little worrying when someone obsesses over you (it's only happened to me once, mind).

I think that if you've told her that you don't feel the same way, you've done the right thing in setting her straight. But ultimately it's now her responsibility to get over you and move on. Clinging onto an unrequited love is indeed unhealthy, and it's very uncomfortable knowing that someone is harming their own life over you. But so long as you've told her, there's nothing else you can really do.

I suppose this is probably why when a girl turns a guy down, she often plays match-maker between the guy and one of her friends - to get out of that situation. You don't often see guys doing that though

[Peter_20]

Heh, I dunno why, but it feels... weird that this half-acquainted girl should feel like crap just because I'm her classmate and she likes me. :rolleyes2

It really feels "too much" to be able to affect someone's feelings like that without my doing anything particular.

[Cloudane]

Mm. I refer back to my point about love being illogical

I've had plenty of crushes, a couple of them quite serious and heart-achey, on girls who I've not really known and who have never really "done anything" as such. Based on nothing other than how they act, what I imagine they're thinking/feeling (which ironically may be far from the truth) and how they look. Just how it goes innit.

[Peter_20]

Mm. I refer back to my point about love being illogical

I've had plenty of crushes, a couple of them quite serious and heart-achey, on girls who I've not really known and who have never really "done anything" as such. Based on nothing other than how they act, what I imagine they're thinking/feeling (which ironically may be far from the truth) and how they look. Just how it goes innit.

Heh, I thought as much.
You actually don't need to be personally acquainted with a girl in order to fall in love with her, you basically have to like her looks and how she acts with her friends.
That's all you need to feel the heartache.

There was this girl in my high school class that made me feel weird in these sorts of ways.
She was very silent and just a tad arrogant, but not much at all.
That, combined with her cute looks and fragile body (fragile as in being slender and petite), made me feel attracted to her in a very special kind of way; it's kinda hard to put into words, really, but I'm sure you can tell what I mean.

The thing that hurt so much was the fact that I thought she actually liked me at first, but then grew tired of me because of my acting unsecure back then.
And then I had to see her in school everyday, acting in her cute, silent and petite way.
Meh.

[Cloudane]

Personality is huge. Of course there's nothing like actually knowing someone (might have a personality that fits but be a psycho!) but in terms of developing crushes it doesn't take much, just the right combination of fascinating personality and reasonable looks.

Incidentally I asked out this one I was talking about today and she didn't seem to hesitate in saying 'yes' I only asked casually mind, just for a drink (rather than a blatant "let's date" kind of thing) which is fine as I'm not comfortable leaping into things. I'd rather see how we get on outside of the internet first. Will be in a week or two when she's off some meds. (unless she changes her mind of course - lady's prerogative innit

[Renmiri]

And then I had to see her in school everyday, acting in her cute, silent and petite way.
Meh.

Yep, that's how it feels... A bit like having stubbed your toe and trying to walk after that. A nagging pain that sometimes you forget or even get used to it. But sometimes you bump that hurt toe against something and you see stars of pain... Like if she talks to you nicely or if she doesn't respond to your "Hello" or someone gets to hug her in front of you.

But if all goes well, every day you will be feeling a little less pain, until it all goes away (thankfully!) and your toe/heart is ready for another crush.