Personality is huge. Of course there's nothing like actually knowing someone (might have a personality that fits but be a psycho!) but in terms of developing crushes it doesn't take much, just the right combination of fascinating personality and reasonable looks.

Incidentally I asked out this one I was talking about today and she didn't seem to hesitate in saying 'yes' I only asked casually mind, just for a drink (rather than a blatant "let's date" kind of thing) which is fine as I'm not comfortable leaping into things. I'd rather see how we get on outside of the internet first. Will be in a week or two when she's off some meds. (unless she changes her mind of course - lady's prerogative innit