Congrats, I think. If you are having second thoughts about marriage, seriously contemplate them and come to a conclusion, and go from there. I would talk to everybody and get a balanced view before I make a decision (including your fiancée/fiance)

I'm not in a relationship and haven't been in one since I decided 'Damnit PG you're not jumping into another one unless the chances of it being a truly serious (not in the zomg we're having sex this is serialious business way) are good/high'. This effectively screws me out of a lot of possibilities and I'm running out of available girls to ask out. Damnit.

However even if I were in a serious relationship I haven't justified why I should get married. I think one of the main practical & secular (as opposed to practical and theistic?) reasons to get married is the tax benefits. I intend to pull my own weight in relationships, and when we're speaking financially, there's less chance for a tax benefit when both couples make the same amount of money and file jointly.

I hate linking msn articles but sauce. (The people who tended to face a marriage penalty were those with similar incomes. Typically, the more they made, the bigger the penalty they paid.)

So I would ask a varied amount of married couples and ask them why they got married, filter out the useless answers, and decide whether marriage is good for me. This obviously removes a great deal of the romantic aspect of a marriage. Good job, PG