I'd have banged FOA too... :o
I'd have banged FOA too... :o
ITT Rye lulz because every guy who is making comments about how "dumb" girls are, is strangely enough... single!
Anyway, I think not talking to you for three days is a excessive. I don't think the meaning behind what you said was bad, but how you said it wasn't the best way. I think if you had worded it:
"I could have at least gotten some action out of it while it lasted! Oh well (a passing thought kind of "oh well" though, not a serious regretful one, or else she might be mad)... I have you now though. That's what matter."
She wouldn't have gotten mad. I wouldn't have been, I'd have laughed.
Last edited by Rye; 05-04-2008 at 05:05 PM.
As has been said, she probably interpreted what you said as "I wish I had Sarah, but I guess you'll do". I can understand why she'd be hurt by that. What you should do is (When she's willing to listen) tell her that you worded what you said badly. You didn't mean that you preferred Sarah over her, or that you regret being with her, or that she was a second choice. You only meant that Sarah was attractive.
Oh, and as I think has been said, bois can be super offended about this sort of thing as well. Girl or boy, I'd get upset if I thought the person I was with preferred someone else to mewhy else do you think I am sabotaging all her friendships.
Wow you certainly have a certain influence in this it feels like you stole the words from outta my mouth! lol
Seriously though yeah as Kes said it was a bit of a loaded question you don't get second chances or guesses here you get 1 shot at answering correctly. 3 days & I'd consider myself dumped lol sorry to say that but it's the truth.
Correct answer was to shut your fool mouth and 1) never admit liking another girl in a romantic way believe me even admitting you liked someone gives a bit of incrimination which WILL bite you in the ass especially if you still speak to that girl/guy in particulary. 2) keep plausible deniability, take a leaf outta the CIA's book. Essentially if you never admit anything it never happened and it can stay that way learn to lie. 3) Don't ask the "well you liked so and so didn't you?" question it's just a way to get hurt. This goes for both girls and guys so there no sexism here. I'm pretty sure my girlfriend has friends she used to fancy ect but the difference is, if nothing is happening there I don't want to know about it. I know I got friends I used to fancy too and I just don't talk about those friends very much with the girlfriend. What they don't know won't hurt them.
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I'm telling!
I don't agree with this. I'd much rather to be told truth than be lied to.
OH NO YOU FOUND/FIND SOMEBODY ELSE ATTRACTIVE, HOW TERRIBLE! I don't think that is the issue, it's the fact that your girlfriend felt like you hold regrets in being with her. I think the only thing you said wrong was the "sadly", because aside from that you were just answering her question and being truthful. I still think that ignoring you and not talking to you for 3 days is over dramatic, as a simple apology should do the trick because you just worded what you said the wrong way.
Last edited by Jess; 05-04-2008 at 06:22 PM.
it's not the fact that you said the girl was pretty. It's that you said that you wished you had had the chance to have sex with her. that was a HUGE mistake.
I don't think that three days is excessive. Especially if Dr. Casey doesn't feel that he did anything wrong and is not apologizing. Three days is not enough and even ten more won't be until he pays enough penance. Crawling on his knees and repeating (and meaning) what Psy has said:
<i>No, Sarah was an ugly whore and a self-obsessed slag and she meant nothing to me compared to the meaningful connection you and I share. Before I met you I was so lonely and didn't feel like I belonged anywhere, but now I feel spiritually together with you.</i>
Or something to that effect (affect?).
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You didn't just admit the girl was pretty, you admitted that you would have liked to have sex with her before you started going out with your current girlfriend.
That sir, is a no-no.
Saying that is saying "Man, I wish I would have gotten with Sarah before I got with you, I mean LOOK AT HER, she's obviously pretty enough to want all the guys after her in a mindless drone fashion. I mean, I almost can't believe I didn't get with her before I got with you, I mean Sarah > You. Seriously, like I mean I love you and all, but I would SO have done Sarah given the chance" in girl speak.
Are you really so oblivious that you didn't think what you said was going to upset your girlfriend? Wow.
Uh, no. Lie to me and you'll know what trouble really is. Lumping women together and making stereotypical, denigrating remarks ain't cool.
QFMFT & GJ
Exactly. My boyfriend and I have been together five years and we talk about people we find attractive and people we have crushes on all the time. It's okay for him to say "Damn, that girl is hot." but it ain't okay for him to say "Man, I wish I'd smurfed her before I met you!"
xD. Leeza is a pro.
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