I should have been gay...

[ReloadPsi]

edit: I'd also like to point out that "buttsex" doesn't define gay sex as some of you seem to think~ Many gay men don't have anal sex at all.

I'm glad there are some people out there who actually get that. "How can you be bi if you won't have sex with men?" It's ridiculous. It just happens to be the something I would never ever do.

I'm curious... for people who are attracted to both genders, but who aren't at all interested in sexual relations with one gender - how does that impact on their relationships and attractions with people of that gender? I'm aware that buttsex isn't the end-all and be-all of male same-sex intimacy, of course, but I'm still interested to learn how people reconcile an attraction to a person with an absence of sexual desire for them.

Quite some time ago one of my best friends, who was gay, would get very affectionate and, if we were both drunk enough, we would actually grab hold of each other in ways that would make people believe we were in fact an item. We weren't, we were just two close friends who knew how to put on a bit of a show

I also once fell in love with one of my male friends who was straight (at least I think I did). Closest I ever got to expressing that was a hug (make that falling into his arms crying, I was talking about a lot of personal problems), and it was enough. He was none the wiser until I admitted said feelings to him about six months later.

(SPOILER)Saying all that, for all I can't bring myself to get naked and have sex with a guy, I have equal disinterest in doing the same thing with a girl too, yet feel identical affections for them. Okay, the spoiler tag wasn't necessary until you consider how shocked people act when I tell them this, as though the fact I just don't give a crap about having sex is a major twist ^^