My mom fills me with rage, unneccesary rage even. Her actions far from being merely selfish and lazy are putting un-needed stress on my life and relationship at present. I guess explaining this one might be good so I might vent it out at someone.
I am applying for my passport, now believe it or not but at 23 heading for 24 it'll be my first passport. Therefore I need my mothers birth certificate to get it. I could use my Dad's but since he's been dead 20 years this is more than a little difficult since to get a copy of his birth and death certificates will require me to have formal ID such as a Drivers Liscence or Passport, I have neither of which and to get 1 of them I need to acquire the birth certificate (and death if my dad's is the route I must take) of atleast one parent. Why at 23 I need such things to prove I am English I will never quite get, I mean I'm white (not being racist but well originally the people of England were white, it's like the people of Kenya originally are Black simple observation here), I'm from London, I've lived in the UK for 23 years, I've paid my taxes ect ect but now suddenly even an interview with me is not enough to prove I am English. I've asked my mom now atleast every week since last year around may some time to get her birth certificate. Last year I was meant to go Austrailia to see a friend he was offerring to put me up at his place for free for a fair few weeks. My mom never got it then and I couldn't go, I tried to apply for it myself but under the Data Protection Act apparently I cannot even acquire it for personal use such as this. It is now October and over a year after I was due to go Austrailia and spend some time there, who knows I could have been there still had I gotten immigration sorted. In February next year I am due to go to Poland for my girlfriend's brothers wedding. If I do not go it will cause many problems the least of which is that if I cannot get my passport sorted in time is the fact she has threatened to go with an ex-boyfriend because he can make it. I spoke to my mom every week since moving out and asked her or asked my sister to ask her to get it sorted apparently this has not happened. I need that piece of smurfing paper by November otherwise I will not have a passport in time for February, this is not like I can risk it because the wedding takes place on valentines day.
Other problems this is causing include my girlfriend considering her options of not comming back to England after Christmas (she will be at her parents in Poland for this time period) It's causing me stress because I happen to quite like the girl I mean I've moved in with her something I was apprehensive to do. A cold hearted part of my mind tells me not only will her failure to return to England break my heart but it will have a knock on effect of making it so I can no longer afford to live where I do. Since where I live currently is a very cheap place in terms of London I will be left having to move out. Moving back in to my mom's for various reasons such as overcrowding, not getting along with my mother when living with her ect is not a viable option so I will effectively become homeless. Perhaps I ought to tell my mother this situation, she might actually move her ass then.
GRAHAHDDHA <--- see my unneccessary rage over this? Strangely though whilst furious on the inside I am outwardly comming across as apathetic which does not help me much!!!!!
Well my rage provided something useful for once, going off on a rage against all things "mother" I looked in to getting my mom's birthcertificate myself, thankfully now the Identity Protection Service or Passport offices have now got control of the registry for births, deaths and marriages I can apply for my mothers certificate, thats 30 quid still though...grrr
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