I have attained the ability to be rough, but tender when needed.

Also, the question of attraction is completely tricky. What girl/guy finds attractive in one person, whatever that is, can also be something that the said person finds utterly repulsive in another. When discussed, the concept of attraction should be directed at one specific person, and not generally, as I think it is almost impossible to be attracted to one specific type of beauty, generally speaking. No one person is the same. Not even identical twins.