The Apparently Depressing Truth

[Shiny]

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Was there favoritism in your family? Are you one or both of your parent's favorite offspring?


My mom's favorite is definitely my brother, but it's most likely because he was her first child and he is the only boy. My dad doesn't have a favorite, but if he did it definitely would not be my brother. xD

It's funny because my sister is clingy and jealous when it's my dad, her, and me together. I think the youngest child seems to be more apt at acting out, pining for attention, trying to be the favorite, and competing with other siblings because they were the last.

[oddler]

I think my dad sort of leaned toward me as a favorite which really bugged me. :-\ My mom is happy-go-lucky like me and just really doesn't pay attention to stuff like that, I think.

[Clo]

Oh, definitely my little brother is favored. But I'm a sassy heathen who wants to be an English teacher, and he's a traditionalist who's a Marine. I almost don't blame them.

[Cuchulainn]

Think I was. I was always the wee smurfer who could make my ma laugh when she was mad at me. Won her over by random like forcing her to dance or telling her I wish I was adopted.

I needed this skill when I was a teenager cause I got into many many troubles.

[Fujiko]

My elder brother (which is the oldest of us siblings) is my mom's favorite. She says she loves us children equally, but we can tell he's her favourite, and I say it's simply because he was her first-born (the rest of us siblings agree on that). But my younger brother which is the youngest of us four siblings has been spoiled since he was a baby; that said, it is actually my younger sister who is about a year older than my younger brother who always were the one to want all the attention. When my baby brother came into this world she would do anything for the attention and would get jealous of him often. She's the funny, center of attention type in our family.

My younger brother always looked up to me and we've been best friends ever since I can remember. He still comes to me when we he needs to talk about something. He's quite the reserved, lone-wolf type like me.

My eldest brother was always the rebel in our family; he's been the most difficult to deal with ever since we were children, but it's much easier now.

I'm the calm and collected one in my family; the patient and planning one. But I am also a lone wolf since birth and have always been (though I'm not anti social).

I don't think my dad has ever shown he likes one of us more than the other, but he always seemed to like us girls better than the boys, and he favors me over my sister in alot of things sometimes; maybe because I'm his eldest daughter? I don't know, but that is definitely the case with my mother and my eldest brother; he's her favorite.

Another reason for that could also be that our first-born brother died, and so that lost love was all centered around her second-born son, which would be my now eldest brother.

[Lawr]

I'm pretty sure I'm the least favorite (and I'm not even the black sheep!) My sister who is the youngest of four and also the only girl is in the perfect position to receive favoritism.

It's been that way since I was 2 years old so I'm kind of a jealous person.

[~*~Celes~*~]

my youngest brother is definitely the favorite. He's never punished (my mom threatens to ground him and never goes through with it because he uses "but mom" and whines until she gives in because she is very weak) and is allowed to sit on his arse and play video games all the time and when I turn off the tv and tell him to do something, he just yells "OH MY GOSH KARI" over and over and stomps around, but never does anything..

...And he gets away with that, too. Also he's rather mouthy and doesn't get punished for THAT either. "Oh that's just his personality" my dad says. "Punishing him would be telling him not to be himself" he says. Pffft.

[Fujiko]

"Punishing him would be telling him not to be himself" he says. Pffft.

Wth, that's not true. Let him live with me for a while and I'll set him straight.

[Raistlin]

I was an only child for almost 12 years (and I still am my dad's only child), so I can't complain about favoritism. My mom definitely paid more attention to my sister when she was born, but she was a baby while I was in middle school and very independent. I never even considered "favoritism" a possibility.

[Peegee]

My parents treat me and my youngest brother like crap compared to my middle brother. I don't bother bringing friends home, I don't introduce them to any girls, I go out without telling them because there's no point any more. People here say 'lol your an adult who cares' but I tend to think that these behaviours (the lack of closeness on these aspects) were due to long-lasting interpersonal choices. This is usually reinforced by looking at the way my parents treat my kid brother, which I am expecting will lead to the same alienation.

Truth be told sometimes I'm actually jealous of the middle brother.

Although, tbh my parents are awesome and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

lol btw, thanks for letting me rant about something random today. Also stop reading my newspaper!

[LunarWeaver]

I'm a homo, my brother is not, and we don't live in a Showtime series. Take a guess at it!

There was no malicious favoritism, but I crushed enough of their expectations and dreams to make them lean for my brother more than me.

[fire_of_avalon]

I really don't think my father has a favorite. My sister was a trouble maker, and by necessity got more attention than me. I was a good girl. He's relied on me more and we have a similar sense of humor, but I don't think I'm favored.

[Madame Adequate]

Despite being an only child, I was their least favorite.

[rubah]

my brother isn't speaking with my family because he perceives himself to have been slighted through the years with regards to my sister and I.

I wasn't even around for the first 11 years Maybe he's got a point? I don't know.

[Hambone]

My mother has said that she loves us (three) equally, which I think is probably truthful. She gets pissed at some of us (some more than others), but I've never really felt that she had a favorite.

It's probably due to the fact that my family members are largely self-sufficient. We never rely on each other very often and we don't feel the need to be around each other constantly. We all kind of do our own thing and leave each other alone, except when I or my brother need money...I like this because it helped me to see myself as unique, the system of favorites isn't the only way to gain a sense of uniqueness in our family.