nice rant lol but i know how ya feel.. my moms like that too just deal with it until you can move out then only see her when its necessary.. every 2 years or something.. but not to often bcuz you don't get along.. really there is no way to deal with her in a way that will make u both happy. and telling her how u feel might make her feel like a really bad parent when she thinks she's not... just be nice to tell her but only tell if u must other than that just avoid her.. hope it helps with your mom situation..