Real life America is bad enough, Fallout America is a whole 'nother level of awful though.
Caesar does actually value men and women equally, he just believes they have different roles. He thinks the human race needs repopulating and only women can do this, and that's why only men can fight. Makes sense in a way. Equality is nice in a perfect society but it aint that.
I don't know what the hell game you played but Independent Vegas has huge amounts of power - the Upgraded Securitrons. That's how the battle of the Hoover Dam was won - because they were better than the NCR and Legion by a long way.
Also no, and I don't get why House not wanting to take over all of America like the NCR is a bad thing.
Come on Laddy you're just throwing crap at the sides that aren't the NCR instead of applying logic and reasoning to the situation. WHAT WOULD JOSH SAWYER THINK
Also anyone that thinks the NCR are good should play Return to Sender. Or, you know,
read this. HURRAY FOR THE GENOCIDAL MASSACRE OF WOMEN AND CHILDREN GO NCR
And don't give me the "uhhh legion did worse at nipton!" spiel because I don't care. You should justify why the NCR are good as opposed to why the Legion are bad but nobody seems able to do that. Best of a bad bunch doesn't cut it. You speak to the neutral people of the Mojave, the actual desert folk. They don't want the smurfing NCR there and for good reason. They're murdering scum.