Thanks Bob =D  Yeah, I've got GLD to 8 for Flash...not further for Provoke yet.  I'm trying to limit using Flash though, as MRD has no mp!!
Not really into healing myself, but it does remind me of a quote for general parties:
If the tank dies, it is the healer's fault.  If the healer dies, it is the tank's fault.  If the DPS dies, it is their own fault.
Some random person I can't remember ; ;
I don't like laying blame at all, and I definitely wouldn't promote it.  I just like it for myself.  As in asking myself: "Was that my fault?  No, that's fine then." or "Yes, ok, I'll learn and try not to do it again."  It's obviously not always accurate (unavoidable damage, adds etc) ...but a pretty good rule of thumb lol!  And ties in with The Summoner's healing order - generally if the DPS are taking damage, its probably their own fault, and they need to learn!