"I just won't say anything."
Has anyone every said something/posted something that you REALLY want to respond, but you know it'd just start a whole ton of drama?
My old neighbor (who is in her late 40s) made a Facebook post about e-dating. That's great and all. But then she commented about how she attracts douchebags. I really want to tell her than if this is a recurring thing, and she's the common denominator, then maybe she's the problem.
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Originally Posted by Fynn
on a daily basis. Sadly over the years I've cared less and less and just started saying what I think.
Yeah. I normally just sick Botchmun on them and leave it at that.
Yes. I hold my tongue on a lot of stuff because I don't want to hurt people. It has less to do with not starting drama. I figure I would rather not make people sad more than I want to say whatever snarky comment. And I hold in a lot of snarky comments. But, I'm not perfect and I do some stupid frustrating things that make people want to scream at me, so I shouldn't judge others too harshly when they do the same.
It is difficult for me to not say what I feel. If it's just a negative comment to an idiot that won't help anyone and will make me look like an asshole, I'll think it instead of saying it. I pick my battles with my mother. 5/10 times arguing I will just walk away, but sometimes I am just in the mood where she does something to shove me over the edge and I have to come back swinging (figuratively speaking). With my sisters, I will pretty much always say something because I'm the jerky bossy alpha female eldest sister of the four of us.
If it's something to do with friends or someone outside the family I care about or how I feel about something that is stressing me and bothering me, I always tell myself I should just keep it to myself and let it pass, but I usually end up saying what it is that's bothering me. It is better for me to get them out instead of letting them sit inside and allow me to grow resentful. Sometimes when I do keep them in, they pass, and the feeling is over like it was never there. If it bothers me enough, though, I will have to say something. Sometimes holding it in for so long makes me let it out in really bad ways, though. I have not found a good medium for addressing things that bother me with other people, and I am bad at it.
Most threads in EoEO.
I don't like being met with a "You're objectively wrong, now let me passive aggressively talk down to you as I explain why".
I'm the king of calling people out, but honestly, I just prefer to remain silent as opposed to going out on a limb that may break off from under me. Diplomacy is a careful art, not unlike blacksmithing in the work involved and the amount of damage that can be done to you if you screw it up.
"i don't like drama"
"if ur looking for a quick hook up look elswhere [all pics are in bars with massive cleavage showing]"
"if u cant handle me at my worst than u dont deserve me at my best"
"must make 100,000K a year [has 2 children/works part time]"
"I listen to everything [freaks the **** out when you talk about music that isn't on the top 40 charts]"
"if u r gonna b wit me u gunna have to have a 5 year plan [aimlessly did nothing in Community College for seven years]"
Okay, I'll stop. My point is two fold. One, most dating profiles are terrible and dating sites, even ones you pay for that are supposedly designed to weed out morons, are just trashy. There are a few good eggs out there, but it's very tough to pull off. And two, those examples I listed are how I feel like the person you described fills out their profile. Okay, she probably has better grammar, but I did that to bea ****ing assholefunny.
On topic: I find myself doing that a lot here, but it's not that I bite my tongue. I just don't want to waste my free time arguing with people. I'm not going to change someone's political, religious, [important stance] on a Final Fantasy board, so why waste my time typing up a seven paragraph essay that will ultimately fall on deaf ears?
On Facebook, I bite my tongue for similar reasons. The difference here is that I'll make mock status updates that is obviously parodying a person or people.
I have this friend, not really a friend but we have many mutual friends and end up at the same social gatherings occasionally so we play nice with each other. She's very, uh, vocal about her opinions, and one of those "I'm not like other girls" types y'know? Most of the time I'm just like "well ok then" but sometimes when she describes "other girls" she's describing very specific things that fits a girl she knows. Like, once she posted some kind of anti-"fake" gamer girl thing and said something like "most nerd girls only like Final Fantasy, Mass Effect, The Twilight Zone, Community and Venture Bros, I like some of these things plus [other things]." Basically an oddly specific list of all of the things that I had recently posted about liking a whole bunch. I had this brief moment where I wanted to finally call her out on it, but I knew it would turn into a thing and I decided it wasn't worth it. She's just a really insecure girl and she wants to feel special. Aren't we all insecure girls that want to feel special?
Yeah. All the time. I work with a bunch of homophobic Marines who I know would go ballistic if they found out I was bisexual. And they talk about it and how it is against God and the Bible and everything and I just say nothing or claim not to know the bible, because I don't being an atheist.
There are lots of other things I say nothing about. Facebook friends who talk constantly about politics and government is evil theories and a constant barrage of save all the damned pets. I always want to say something, but I don't because if I did I would be obligated to talk to them about it.
I don't like to start trout because I would feel obligated to finish it and people are dumb. If you don't believe me check out Shlup's thread about gay racism hate in EoEO.
<PaperStar> live fast, die young, bad plefs do it well
You don't know how hard it's been not posting anything about duck dynasty on facebook. Click share from my twitter/fb app, then very deliberately untap "Facebook".
I was sick of the idea of the show when I left for AR for christmas. Then on the ride to my parents' house from the airport, they start talking about the debacle. And then the next few days, all I see on facebook is people rallying behind these smurfs.
oh my goddddddddddddd
I had to pretend I didn't hear anyone talking about it at the family christmas eve dinner.
That usually happens to me multiple times every day.
There is nothing passive about it. Sometimes people are objectively wrong, and it warrants pointing it out to them.
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