This is why hard games are fun:
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Here's how hard games work.:
You found a new game, you started playing it, and it's awesome! (A-B)
...oh, a hard part. You ran into a brick wall. You're stuck. It sucks. You aren't enjoying this at all. (C)
But wait, it turns out you were just bad at the game, because it's new to you. You stopped banging randomly on the controller, took a deep breath, gave it some thought, put in some practice, got better, and beat that hard part. This is awesome! (D)
...oh, another hard part. You thought you were good, but you were not. (E)
But you didn't give up. You practiced more, and you DESTROYED that hard part. You're feeling good about yourself! (F)
The next time a hard part shows up, you don't plunge back into despair. You know you can do it, so you work at it. And yay you beat the game! (G)
And now that hard game has replay value, because it's a hard thing that you're good at. You can keep playing this and enjoy exercising this new skill that you acquired through hard work. (H-I)
Here's how easy games work:
You found a new game, you started playing it, and it's awesome! (A-B)
Oh, a kind-of-hard part. ...well, it wasn't that hard. Enjoyment is tapering off. (C)
...and enjoyment continues to taper off. It's lots more of the same. It turns out all this game requires to win is time investment. (D-F)
You beat the game! You got a little bump of enjoyment out of that. (G)
And now you're done with it. You feel happy, and also happy that you got it over with. And you plan to never touch this game again. (H-I)
For many people, when you find a hard game, I imagine you go A-B-C-quit. You're missing out on a lot of fun if you do. The harder the challenge, the better you feel once you beat it. I remember when I first beat BIT.TRIP Runner, I was happy for days afterward. I felt proud at having accomplished something. Something that in the grand scheme of things is just a silly video game, yes, but still proud.
Sure there are other ways to enjoy games: story, art, music, relaxation etc. But this is how you enjoy hard games. Hard games can have the story, art, music, etc. AND give you a feeling of accomplishment. I highly recommend giving it a try if you never have. Grab a popular-but-very-hard game, or grab a game you thought was great but gave up on because of difficulty, and practice until you scale that cliff and get good at it, and see how you feel after that.