We usually have arguments about not having arguments. She's more emotional or hormonal or whatever, so weird things bother her that even she doesn't understand sometimes, but she'll get mad at something that I think is frivolous. Asking her why she's mad over it makes her even madder, so I ignore it and let her have her anger since starting an argument over it seems frivolous to me as well. But then I get in trouble for not offering a hug or something. Like you got yourself worked up over something stupid and I'm either supposed to start an argument over it for no reason, or feel sympathetic for no reason. To me a hug feels empty unless I feel it. It's not something I offer freely without feeling. So I just don't. Unless I can understand and/or relate to whatever the issue is, I just let people have their moments in peace while I keep to myself. Just who I am. And its the one thing about me she hates