So, BoB, your arguments seem to be:
1) It doesn't matter than more than 90% of sexualized imagery is of women, because sometimes women think men are sexy.
2) It's okay to sexually objectify women, full stop, as much as we'd like, because people like to feel sexy themselves. Sexual objectification is no different, value-wise, than being a sexual subject.
Why are you so bent on ignoring culture and context? Cidney doesn't exist in a vacuum.