Originally Posted by
Pheesh
Originally Posted by
Laddy
I'm always early to a social gathering. I get to introduce myself to everyone and dictate the mood of the event.
Define 'early'. If you're early in the traditional sense of the word there shouldn't be anyone to introduce yourself to except the host who you already know. You have essentially invited yourself to someone else's house earlier than they were ready to receive you.
You're right though, it definitely dictates the mood, just that it shouldn't be yours to dictate if you're not throwing the party, at least not at the beginning of the night.
We're talking, five minutes? I'm not going to show up to someone's house (which assumes it even takes place at a private residence) well before the event has even finished preparations unless I'm specifically invited by the person beforehand to help prepare, for example. I don't know what I said to give an indication I intended otherwise.
And "dictate" is a pretty poor word choice so perhaps better phrasing is in order. I like to be one of the first few people to arrive at an event, within reason, so that I can acclimate myself to the environment and personalities as they come in. It's way easier for me to start conversation and keep my anxiety in check. So by "dictate the mood of the event" I'm not (intentionally) stating I want influence over people but rather I want to have a certain degree of freedom to introduce myself on my own terms and thus have more control and freedom as I come off, see? Dictate the mood of the event as it pertains to me.