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    Just a thought.

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    I don't think so. You can be annoying or something, but that's no longer a part of being nice, really. Still, it's impossible to please everyone, so though your intentions are pure, there will always be people who will put you down regardless

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    Yes.

    If you're too nice people take advantage of your niceness. It depends in what way you mean being nice. Sometimes you need to put yourself first but you can do that in a nice way.

    also I don't trust people who are 'too nice' nobody is 'too nice'


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    I meant nice as in. Caring about other people. And not ignoring them. Stuff like that.

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    Then yeah I still do think that it can be detrimental to you to be too nice to someone who isn't giving you the same back. If they are, then it's all cool.


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    Nope. I used to wonder about that but studying in a field of people who have to be nice and caring as part of their job description, the answer is no. All of my human service professors are the nicest people ever, but they still know how to set boundaries and they still don't let you walk all over them. So you can still be a nice, caring person while also taking care of yourself and respecting yourself. Not the easiest thing to balance though, I imagine, but it is entirely possible

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    Exactly. Setting boundaries for yourself does not have to equal being less nice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pumpkin View Post
    So you can still be a nice, caring person while also taking care of yourself and respecting yourself.
    If you are nice to the point that you are not taking care of/respecting yourself - then you could be "too nice". But that's not a failing of being "nice", I feel, it's something else. Generally I agree there is no such thing.

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    I agree with Pumpkin. I think a lot of people consider boundary setting something that is mutually exclusive from niceness - that being nice means you can't stand up for yourself or others. I don't think that's true, even though most people don't see it that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Night Fury View Post
    Yes.

    If you're too nice people take advantage of your niceness. It depends in what way you mean being nice. Sometimes you need to put yourself first but you can do that in a nice way.

    also I don't trust people who are 'too nice' nobody is 'too nice'
    This.
    Many people took advantage of my kindness and since then I trust only those who are trustworthy and fully deserved this title.

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    Ok. Thanks guys and gals. Lads and lassies. I think i understand now lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zanmato View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Night Fury View Post
    Yes.

    If you're too nice people take advantage of your niceness. It depends in what way you mean being nice. Sometimes you need to put yourself first but you can do that in a nice way.

    also I don't trust people who are 'too nice' nobody is 'too nice'
    This.
    Many people took advantage of my kindness and since then I trust only those who are trustworthy and fully deserved this title.

    I still trust people as per what I said in the broken promises thread. I just think if someone claims they are 'too nice' they'll show that they aren't eventually. Doesn't make me wary of them or anything.


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    That is true. Nothing is more suspicious than someone informing you that they're nice.

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    I think if someone calls themselves too nice, then there's probably something weird going on there.

    But as a people, I don't think we can be "too nice".

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    I tend to say im not nice. But that isnt true so yeah. The main reason i made this thread was to see how much is too nice. And it seems i know now. Hopefull other people get help from this thread too

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