Quote Originally Posted by The Summoner of Leviathan View Post

It was because I figured out what his job, a therapist in radio-oncology, was. Then we talked about everything. In other words, I wasn't an idiot or a big pervert that just wanted to get into his pants. I mean who'd think that treating someone like a person would actually work? (Sarcasm directed at the many infuriating things guys would say and do on Grindr).
To be honest, I'm not a fan of Grindr. I mean, I've never actually used it (and before any says, that's not a suspiciously specific denial), and I'm really fortunate that Mr. Carny met me before I entered any sort of dating scene.

Like TSoL, I really prefer getting to know people first and enjoying their company, before even entertaining the idea of being with them. Part of that is probably my demi tendencies, and the fact that I never consciously went out looking for people to be with (until Mr. Carny bumped into me, of course).

And I'm uncomfortable with the idea of hook-ups and one-night stands. I'm not about policing people's bodies, and I have no objection to it, I just don't find the idea appealing. And some of the stories I hear from people who's used Grindr or Tinder make me laugh, if they weren't also kinda sad either.

Fun story: one of my friends uses Grindr and arranged a hook-up at the guy's house. The first words the guy said was that they'd have to be quiet because his mother's asleep. I'm honestly surprised that didn't make him go soft, but they ended up going into the shed and doing it there. I mean, got to give them bonus points for dedication and improvisation, but I was relieved that neither of them got nailed by a power tool.