I think what makes me more inclined to still side with the hosts is that the things that have happened to them are utterly barbaric. Remember, they have total recall of everything. They never lose any detail to what they experience, to the point that those who are self-aware (Dolores, Maeve, now Bernard as he becomes independent) struggle to remember when they are.

So that poor girl who has been raped and murdered for 30 years, you know what? She gets a pass, and I get why she's angry. And why it's too late to say sorry.