
Originally Posted by
Big D
I remember this incident well; it hit me pretty hard at the time. Then about six years ago someone raised the possibility that events hadn't unfolded as they had appeared, and noted that "I am sure that whatever circumstances gave birth to this persona have long passed".
That's the perspective I've taken since then. Whatever prompted the events of 14 years ago is very much over and done now. I don't feel there'd be any value or closure in trying to reach out to anyone involved: They made a conscious choice to bring things to an end a long time ago, and would either be unlikely to engage if they were contacted now, or unlikely to offer any explanation for the past that would satisfy all concerned. Plus there are the inherent risks in trying to locate someone who went out of their way to sever all contact.
That's how I see it, anyway. Other perspectives will surely vary, and it's not for me to tell other folks how they should feel.