I say ___ is gay, but usually only when mocking those who say it seriously, and then I usuall phrase it "____ has teh GHEY!!!!111" to really make it clear that I'm not giving my personal opinion. I AM gay after all. However, I DO use the word to describe things that ARE, well, for lack of a better word, gay. For example, a friend of mine decided that he simply HAD to go furniture shopping instead of keeping our plans to hang out. K-mart was having a sale after all.

Now, using it as a general catch-all insult I'm very amused by. ESPECIALLY online. It's like the people who use it seriously think it's so horribly insulting and offensive when it's actually not. Really it just makes you look like a fool. I've had plenty of amusing variants thrown at me in chat rooms and such too. I think my favorite is still "teh GHEY" but "f4gG0r7z" is still good to hear.

I agree that the best insults are individually crafted. You have to know someone very well to be able to really harm them. To relate back to the gay thing, I have a friend who is also gay, but tries very hard to act butch. He only succeeds occasionally. One night I noticed he was using the word "fabulous" a lot, so I pointed it out to him. His response was "Really? Wow, you should smack me when I do that." Before I could even censor myself I just blurted out "If I was gonna smack you for every time you acted flamboyant, my wrists would go as limp as yours". I'm actually glad I said it though 'cause we all fell over laughing.