love issue

[Agrias]

ok i have a problem....last year i asked a guy out..he said no and lets just be friends and just recently we have become friends.......but....i think i still have some feelings for him...now...i'm scared to tell him so i hide it as much as possible....and i'm afraid that if i tell him we'll lose our friendship and he wont think of me that way blah blah blah!!
so.....what to i do.....help?

-agrias-

[TheAbominatrix]

I wouldnt say anything. From what I see of this situation, no good can come of it. He's already said he doesnt feel for you like that, right? If he develops these feelings, he already knows you've had them before, and he'll be more inclined to tell you. As it is, you may just be making a good friendship an uncomfortable hassle by confessing.

[EternalBahamut]

I have to agree, once you play that card it will always be on both of your minds. If it is going to happen, wait for his move.

[Agrias]

what i'm not to sure about though is that he usually has the girl ask him...he doesnt really take the initiative....except for maybe one person he asked out a LONG time ago...
-Agrias-

[Peegee]

Didn't he give you the kiss of death? What happened to all the other cute/hot boys at your school? Is this boy *the* hottest boy at your school? Unless he is, I'm going to ask that you find somebody else.

And if he's not the type to ask a girl out, meh..... << >>

[Tokki Wartooth]

Love is horrible. :(

[Agrias]

i guess.....to me he's the hottest in personality and looks.....there are some hot guys that look at me though....oh well......i guess i should get over it eh? its tough to get over the first person you asked out..or so i've heard..

[animee_]

Maybe just starting to think of this guy as just a friend might be the best thing to do. Wasting away thinking if this guy will ever like you more than just a friend is going to be a waste of your time when maybe you could be out meeting new people and making new friends, maybe you will start seeing someone else differently and start having these feeling towards them.

Sometimes friendship can be a more important thing then trying to take things to the next level with someone....

Well this is what I think anyways...

[Del Murder]

Usually when you become more than friends you won't be able to go back. Keep that in mind. It depends on how much you value this friendship and how confident you are.

[Agrias]

ROFL
i'm not very confident:\
-Agrias

[XSabinX]

i have a somewhat similar situation. I know this girl brianna, and she says that she has feelings for me, but she doesn't want to get into a relationship becuase she goes to school and then gets feelings for other guys. Its very messed up. But I mean, she had them before and she still has them, she just doesn't act like it. She dumped me twice, im still waiting for the third. I just love her so much im willing to go through that pain again....and yes love sucks

[Peegee]

its tough to get over the first person you asked out..or so i've heard.

I think it's very different for females, because they're supposed to be the ones deciding on whether to start a relationship (I mean, stereotypically a guy asks the female, so she says yes or no). So being rejected is hard. If you don't like the idea of being rejected just enjoy being single for now. It's not that bad anyway -- guys are dweebs and they aren't cool until they turn a certain age anyway

[Shlup]

Wait... You asked him out and he said he just wanted to be friends, so you're asking if you should ask him out again? He said no. He's not the last guy you'll ever meet. Just pick another one.

[Agrias]

but there is no other guy......at elast not one i would want to ask out.....i dunno...i think i'll just stay as the same old single agrias i am right now...maybe its just better that way...askjdflasjfdsajd;lsjagjasghadghal;ksgj...i'm just sooo confused cause these feelings have been coming and going for about a month now and i just...cant deal with it along with everything else thats happening in my life you know? cause...my parents are trying again at the whole marriage thing...and...my mom is unbearable...and...i almost feel like running away,...and my brother moved out..and my friend isnt really my friend anymore cause she lied to me...O BOY!!!ldfjas;lgkjaslgjasl;jgla;sglahgl;k...........thanx for the advice peeps it really helps me

[Rainecloud]

Don't worry about it. Love is too expensive anyway.