Sex Cleavage

[Shlup]

"Sex cleavage" is a term used to describe the tendancy for people to "hang out" with people of their own gender. While its up for debate whether this behavior falls into the category of "nature" or "nurture" in the age-old debate versus the two, one thing remains true:

I prefer the company of males.

When I was a little girl I had a couple of close female friends, but when we were on the playground I mostly played with boys. In junior high school I went through a phase were the lunch table I sat at was inhabited by only females, but the only one of those friendships that lasted once high school started was with Ashley (aka TheAbominatrix).

I have plenty of friends, but only two of my close friends are female:

1) Brandy, who is a Mormon and is far away and nearly un-reachable on her mission, and is entirely too close to my mother anyway so that if I tell her anything she will almost certainly casually mention it to my mother in conversation.
2) Ashley, who has spent the last three years without going to work or to school and I swear to God if I spend more than a few hours with her every couple of weeks I am going to punch her in the face for reasons that may or may not be obvious. Also, she hardly counts as a female. I mean seriously.

Other than that my next two closest female friends are Kim (Sean's wife), who, in reality, I've seen probably less than seven times in the last two years. We were friends in elementary school though and I always have a soft spot for childhood friends, and Nicky. The latter being a member here, Calliope, who I've never even so much as talked to on the phone, just sent a couple of letters back and forth.

This only started to bother me, though I can't say it really bothers me, when the subject of myself and BJ someday having bachelor/bachelorette parties. Think about it... My party will consist of a Mormon, a lazy psychopath, and maybe Sean's wife. My wedding party will obviously be Ashley and Brandy and BJ's little sister, while BJ has a hearty supply of as many groomsmen as he wants.

I still don't have a point though. Uhm... *thinks*

Oh yeah, my point was to ask everyone about whether their friendships are mostly of their gender or of the other. And if I'm weird. And if Ashley counts as a female or not.

P.S. No, I'm not engaged, the topic just came up for no reason.

[Yamaneko]

Most of my friends are guys. Guys are easier to talk to than women. We aren't ambiguous and get straight to the point. Afterwards, we play it off and watch a Lakers/Dodgers/Raiders game. For me, women are a few friends, but not close friends, and my mom!

[TheAbominatrix]

xD YOU SHUT UP!

I have a nice mix nowadays, really. When I was a kid I typically only had guy friends, because I was too much of a tomboy. Then for a while I only had chick friends, and now I have a pretty good mix.

I typically find it easier to relate with guys... because, as much as I'll yell at Mandee about it, I'm not much of a female. I just find guys easier to talk to, because most girls arent into video games and making asses out of themselves.

[Erdrick Holmes]

The majority of my friends are male. My ignorant mom thinks I'm gay because of that?

[fire_of_avalon]

I think alot of my really close friends are chicks, but I honestly tend to get along with my guy friends better, and I also my guy friends easier than I do chick friends, especially nowadays.

btw, just to make things especially clear (because mistakes have happened once or twict) I am female.

[PeTeRL90]

Most of my friends are guys, and I find it easier to talk to them about stuff. Besides, I'm real bashful if I'm around a group of girls, although they say that's cute.

[Ichy]

I go to school most of the day and can't stand the people there, so they don't count... I go to work most nights and "get along" with the people there out of sheer circumstance, so they don't really count either. All the other "friends" I had were either drug addicts or alcoholics, and I haven't done any drugs in years and I'm struggling back and forth with not drinking so... out of necessity, they don't count either. My only true friends are the people in the linkshell Windurst Liberation Army (see rockin sig), one of whom lives in the same town as me... Nice to have a tangible person to spend time and be honest with. Aside from him, the only real life tangible hear your voice shake your hand friend I have is a wonderful person I met at a party in November... who was only in town for 3 days and went home to Pittsbhurg the next day. Still, we talk on the phone a fair bit and she's coming up to visit for a week next Tuesday, so that's cool.

There ya go. I have 2 RL friends (one male and one female), a whole bunch of people who I know and basically just try to get along with when necessary, and an entire community on-line where gender really doesn't make any differance. Guess that splits me right down the middle.

[Jebus]

Nearly all of my friends are guys. Mostly because they're who I hung around with in elementary school and who some of said elementary school peoples introduced me too. That plus I have an almost complete inability to talk to girls. Its quite embarassing.

[Teek]

I used to say they were almost chiefly female, I've really decided I prefer to "hang out" with males. Females are too whiny and decedant (haha, let the banning commence) for my own tastes, and most men, however stupid, tend to be at least direct about their stupiditity.

I have a mix, though. *shrug*

[Random Tonberry]

Well I'm a girl, my circle of friends is something like, 35% straight men, 45% gay men, 10% transexuals, 5% butch lesbians, 3% fem lesbians, 2% straight females.

[Kirobaito]

Most of my friends are guys, simply because, well, I'm in the "nerd" social group, and we generally just don't hang around girls all that much. I do have girl friends, but they're not as close as my guy friends. I'm not gay, but that's just the way it is. One of them is my best friend since kindergarten, the other I met in 6th grade, and the other 7th. They are my main friends. My girl friends are Asians that I've known since kindergarten.

[Peegee]

"I hang out with guys most of the time"

RED FLAG RED FLAG RUN AWAY!!!!

Well no, both Mandee and Ashley are really cool friends, and since I have no sexual interest in them it's okay. BUT typically speaking I don't find girls who avoid this 'sex cleavage' thing (never heard of it; is it a noun or verb or pronoun?) to be incongruent females. Case-in-point would be my roommate/ex girlfriend who claims to be just one of the guys yet is in every conceivable way a female. I know this because I purposely engineered it so that she's always trying to get my attention. In the case of "meeting" Tokki, that was just too easy.

(ooc: I'm talking about the idea of a woman who was interested in you, but lost interest because you were clingy. To get her back simply don't pay attention to her; bonus points if you are seen interacting with other females)

Anyway, I don't have a healthy supply of friends. In fact aside from online friends, my real-life friends amounts to about one guy friend, unless you include the people I sometimes hang out with when I go out with my brother (which I really don't count as friends). So my female friends count is something like 3/4 (roommates - ex /roommates + ex), and I have one guy friend.

So I guess I fail the sex cleavage test too. Run away, women, run far and fast!

[Shlup]

Well, yes, that's true that most females who don't have other female friends are evil when it comes down to it. Females often see other females as cometition for males and so don't want them around. I... sometimes have that problem. That's not usually it though.

[Andex]

I have nothing to say, i was attracted to this thread because of the word cleavage.

[Dr Unne]

I grew up only with my sister. I have plenty of guy friends, but that whole "talking to them" thing is a bit beyond me.