truly said, mate. how to go about changing it though? violence would only beget more hatred. Humans, being lazy as they are or in need of Drama as nikOtine suggests, will generally not exert any energy to change something without the threat of violence. So, can you really influence a person without any kind of animosity generated towards a third party?

methinks not really. if you come up with a way, please post it. it'd be a great boon to us all.