Hah, the only ignorance is that of the person with their so-called "problem", if you sugar-coat things, make it sound better so you don't hurt them, they'll only be hurt more when they find out things for real.

And age IS a good generalisation for these things, like I said, at that age they're not biologically mature.

Emotional maturity comes with, you guessed it, AGE.

It is brutal honesty, because it's the truth and it hurts, and if that isn't brutal honesty then I don't know what the hell is.

I KNOW what "love" at a young age can do anyway, I take the example of some relatives of mine, they found each other at an early age, and the woman had decided that she was in "love" with the boy, and he didn't know any better so went along with it. Fifteen or so years later, they're married, have kids, the man doesn't know any better than his wife, he's never experienced anyone other than her, and I could actually describe him as pretty emotionally underdeveloped.

A few months ago, they broke up, the woman had grown tired of her husband, and he'd grown tired of her. He's moved on, met other people, had a number of relationships and above all had FUN, and he's grown up more in those few months than he had in all those years.

And why was he so underdeveloped? Because he'd confused love with lust at a young age, and never know any better. He admitted that himself, and now he's in a happy relationship with someone who he IS in love with, not someone he was with because he simply believed what he'd been told.

If someone had told him at a younger age about what he was feeling, and how wrong he might be, his life may have turned out a lot better, he may have found happiness long before he did.

THAT is what a lack of brutal honesty can do to a person.