Divorce Thread

[Drift]

im too young to know alot about divorce since im still quite young as well as my parents are old fashioned and will stay married even if they hate each other...well heres my thoughts on divorce: its not good but if it does happen then the cut has to be clean no children sholud be involved since its their leives they're messing with not theirs, they already lived and made a mistake thats why they're divorcing

[Yamaneko]

My parents have been together since 1973.

[Nod]

Im not a huge fan of divorce.
my parents have been together for 27-8 years. They're in the process of splitting up- which is why i havent gone home from university for about 4 months; you can cut the tension with a knife!
It is quite strange because when i was younger i used to look at my parents as a shining example of how a good marriage was supposed to be.

[boris no no]

many of myv friends have told me that they are suprised that my parents have split.
but thats life.
my mother wa\s never a mother to me anyway

[Fuzakeru]

My mother and father are just currently getting divorced. Then my mom's ex best friend is now my father's new girlfriend who just moved in to the same house with him and my 13 year old brother. Happy days! >_<

[eestlinc]

my parents divorced when I was 4 and it has had a huge impact on my entire life, especially since I'm an only child. I turned out well, so I don't know if it was such a bad thing.

[Jojee]

*skims thread*

My parents are together, and have been for a great many years. They've had their problems, but they worked it out.

Divorce makes me angry, in most cases. ^_^ It really screws a lot of people's lives up. If you're not sure you can commit to that person through better or worse when you marry them, you shouldn't marry them, at all. When you do marry someone, you should trust and know them enough to be able to work through your problems together.

[rubah]

My parents were divorced before I was born.

So I've got four half siblings.

So I really can't say how it isX.x;

[nik0tine]

My parents are divorced but it doesn't affect me one bit. It used to, but no longer.

[Miriel]

My parents have been together for 25 years. I don't think their marriage was ever (or will ever be) in danger of ending in divorce.

I studied a bit on Divorce and why so many people are getting them these days. And while I understand a lot of the sociological reasonings behind it, the divorce rate in this country still makes me terribly sad.

[Rainecloud]

My Parents have been happily married for 24 years, and I see no sign of that changing in the near future. I respect the sanctity of marriage, and it saddens me when I hear of people getting divorced. In some cases, the split is justified (abusive spouse, cheating spouse, etc), but more often than not, it isn't.

Shame.

[Shattered Oasis]

My parents divorced when I was 7. My father was (and is) a very controlling figure, but luckily he never physically hurt my mom. It caused a bit of a shift in my life for most of my childhood, but now I see that it really was the best option. Most of my friends have parents who are happily married, but there are also many people I know with divorced parents. I look at my grandparents and see how happy they are together, and wonder how much the world has changed.Is the rising rate of divorce because people are marrying too quickly, or are they splitting because of trivial problems that could be talked out with the help of a counselor?

[Chris]

I certainly agree, but I think people are too quick to dub things as horrid and just divorce as opposed to fixing them, less and less people are willing to work on it before giving up. But yes, there's definitly situations where it should be done.

Chris - I had Jesus, so I wasnt alone. My faith got me through, and I had great friends (like Shlup) and a good imagination to escape with xD. But thanks for your kind words, I very much appreciate them <3.

Things are good now, my mom still needs to work on a lot of her problems, but she's happy and that's all that matters. I got to live with my dad for a few years recently, and it was awesome. Even though that whole mess sucked, I suppose it made me who I am.

You were strong and had good friends to help you through.
Sadly many people don't have anyone they can rely on for help and support.
Unlike you many goes down with the ship, but you kept on floating I truly, truly admire you for that.

[Caspian]

The two biggest time frames for divorce are:

1. The first three years of marriage. Understandable, because it might take time being constantly together to realize that it's not doable.

A lot of people don't realize that number 2 is right after the last child has gone to college, or left the home. Often times marriages can survive 15-20 years because of mutual relationships that a mother and father have with their children. Once that common link is gone, it can many times lead to a split.