I admire you Rye.
When I'm upset, I tend to back away from people, and hide away from everyone, but there's always someone that finds me and makes an effort. I really dislike it when people force me to tell them stuff. But those that are subtle about it (such as psy for instance) I find it easier to tell them stuff.
It just depends on trust and there's not many people I can trust.
I'll figure it out later...
Ihave two, maybe three, good friends that I can talk to if I'm feeling down, or if I'm feeling like I might do something stupid, but most of the time I just tend to withdraw and shut myself off.
Should've Done Something
But I've Done It Enough
By The Way Your Hands Were Shaking
Rather Waste My Time With You
Should've Said Something
But I've Said It Enough
By The Way My Words Were Faded
Rather Waste My Time With You
There's only two people I ever trust enough to open up to. Else, I'm on my own.
That's definitely how my dad raised me - to never unload on anyone else and essentially remain stoic. Of course, he's beginning to change his ways, but that doesn't automatically result in a change of my ways. :\ I wonder if that has to do with his upbringing, and the general upbrining of males in my culture? Or hell, any culture?
I have really good friends that seem a bit rough but when i nearly drowned in the swimming pool because I'm not a very powerful swimmer i found out how nice they were. I find it really hard to talk about my problems. Maybe all my friends being nice has something to do with going to only christian schools?
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When I'm down or upset I prefer to be on my own. I normally go into to my room & listen to some music, or I'd go for a walk somewhere & relax. Listening to some emotional music makes me feel much better. If I'm upset I'll react to things very differentily than I normally would, say for example I would be quite quick to anger. I'm never really upset though, I'd only be upset if I lost a dog, friend, or relative. Other than that I don't get upset very easily.
I prefer to do things my way & I never really want anyone to help me out. If I'm going to get something done, then I'll get it done on my own. I'm a solitary person. But I do still appreciate the fact that that they care about me, I just prefer for them not to.
If I have any problems... I'd rather not talk to people about it. Cause, last time I talked to my friends about some things that were bothering me, it made everything worse. I no longer trust one of my friends, and that's cause I told her what was wrong...
I guess... I'm awfully dependant on myself. I'll work through the problems on my own.
If something has upset me... people falling over themselves to try and cheer me up, just makes me feel worse, and then start crying again or whatever.
So, I'd try and avoid telling people, cause although they are trying their hardest to cheer me up, or comfort me, its just making me more upset.
I don't mind telling someone about it... normally my sister, she listens to all the crap that happens to me. And, it gets it off my chest, so I don't feel as bad. Or I put it on my LJ... it normally gets ignored, but... whaever.
But, if people have problems, I don't mind if they come to me to get something off their chest, but they can't expect any advice from me... I suck at giving advice.
Last edited by Shauna; 07-23-2005 at 08:15 PM.
I get stressed out quite a bit and I depend on my close family to help me calm down, otherwise I just get even more stressed out.
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I'll figure it out later...
I pretend to go draw in to myself, just so my friends will try extra hard to help me.
I didn't say you don't love me!
When I was talking about my friends... RL 'friends'.
I used to depend on my friends a lot (non-internet people), but after recent events with them, I don't. To be honest, several of them I wouldn't even trust to water my plants. There's a few who I trust and will actually talk to... but I prefer to keep my problems my problems.
It is weird; I actually come to internet people with my problems (and other stuff) more than I go to my friends and family. I don't know why.
I rely on my Fwends so much! But i never really have any problems im always the one helping my friends with their problems. But when i do they're always there for me. Id be lost without my friends
I rely on my fiance if I need comforting, but that's about it. I only want to be comforted when I'm just plain stressed, and that's best done in ways that my friends certainly can't help me with.
Hmm, sometimes I let it out in my diary or journal. ^_^ That helps. Maybe it is sort of burdening it on other people when I do it on my LJ, but honestly. xD Ignore it if you will. Other than that I'm basically self-dependent because at the end of the day it's just going to be me dealing with it, and no one else can help that. I just try and get rid of it ASAP, because other people have problems too and when you see people around you down, you kind of need to/want to stay up and sane yourself so that you can help them.
Eh....I don't know. I'll start off saying that I won't talk about anything, problems, whatever, but most of the time, I usually end up going to my friends. I get really stressed out really easily, because I think too much, which creates problems; and most of my friends, in real life, are really laid back, so that helps a lot. One of my friends is just so sensible, so nice, and I love him so much. xD
Sometimes it's easier talking to people online, though. There are a few people on here who are really easy to talk to, who I can trust, and whom I've probably dumped way too much of my problems on.
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