Who are you talking to? o__OOriginally Posted by Sasquatch
Who are you talking to? o__O
I like Kung-Fu.
That should not be dignified with a response but i have to ask, are you German?
Meh, who cares? Teenagers aren’t people...
You sound like you lack self esteem, saying things like that about yourself.
I like Kung-Fu.
No, I’m just a sucker for irony
You overexagerate the juvenility (is that even a word?) of teenage relationships. Although 'teen love' is often exagerated, no teenage relationship is that simple. I've never known anybody who would date someone simply for the 'image' or for anything that juvenile. Often times the relationships are pretty baseless, but the way you choose to word your sentances is purely overexageration.but most are in it because they get to make out, or they get a ride around, or they get to look cool with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Or maybe just that they get somebody to pass secret notes to, or to call every night, or to talk sweet to, or whatever.
Love is an emotion. It is no more complex than that. To say that a teen can't understand love due to lack of experiance is laughable because an emotion doesn't get more sophisticated with experiance. If you are sad one day, and then another day you get sad again, your sadness doesn't somehow get more complex. Emotion is not something you get 'better' at.Also that the majority of adults say that a teen cant understand love because of the stark lack of experiences.
Just because they say this doesn't make it true. (I know you realize that, but I must comment anyway) You must realize that most people are stupid, regardless whether or not they are children or adults. Most adults can't handle thinking about things like this, which is pathetic becayse this is not even complex.In the end, like I said, experience is why adults say teens dont understand. Experiences shape our views of a subject. But experience is a double edged sword.
Last edited by nik0tine; 08-28-2005 at 05:55 AM.
No I'm from New Zealand. Don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriend tooThat should not be dignified with a response but i have to ask, are you German?
:mario::luigi:
Why should a teenage couple claiming to be in love, be taken less seriously than a couple in their 30's claiming the same thing? Is it because older people think they've been there and done that, and looking back on it now, consider none of their teenages romances love? Is it because most teenage relationships don't last? Until you can see out of someone else's eyes, and can find a way of quantifying love, it's foolish to claim that someone is not in love when they're sure they are. Not to mention downright insulting to the person.
We have no way of knowing exactly how another human being feels inside. We only feel what we feel. When I was 13 years old, I was in love. Laugh at that all you will, but it was as real as the hot tears streaming down my face when we broke up. That was five years ago, but I know what I felt.
"Teenage love" is just as valid as "grown-up love". Love is love.
Casteal is my little sister!
I realise your putting this up to make a point, and understand i dont make this post to attack what you have said, but I disagree. Emotion (or the understanding there of) does grow over time. Yes one day you can feel sad about, lets say, getting turned down when asking for a date. Everytime it happens that saddness wont neccessarily be worse than the last one. But, lets say you have a girlfriend/boyfriend that you have been with for a quite a while. To suddenly learn they were cheating on you would be a profoundly different and stronger saddness. Its still sadness its true, but it gives you more perspective on how "painless" the prior problem was in relation. In turn a worse situation, lates say Loosing the one you love permenantly (IE their death after many happy years), would be compoundedly more profound then a cheating situation or a breakup. Still its sadness, but its "worse" in many ways and as such gives you more perspective. Emotions do grow over time. Its my belief that an adults perspective, having faced more of these situation, will be shaped and possibly prejudiced (im being fair here) by having a broader experience in the subject. This is the point I was trying to make.
Yeah its an emotion but its a really powerful emotion thats why people think its much more.
Not you. You made a post for that?Who are you talking to? o__O
You "overexagerate" my "overexageration". If you've never seen a relationship -- called "love" -- that wasn't based on popularity, or convenience, or flattery, or anything that juvenile, then you haven't been around many middle schools and high schools. While I never said that all teenage relationships are like this (though that's what you try to make it sound like I'm saying), most are.
As for experience in emotion, nobody said you get "better" at emotions, either. But I know and understand much more about love than I did when I was thirteen. Why? Maturity and experience. I've realized that the "love" I thought I was in while I was a young teenager was nowhere near the "love" I've been in more recently. As most adults would say that their teenage relationships were nowhere near as serious, emotionally, as their more recent ones.
Love is much more complex than some believe it to be. Those that believe it's simple, haven't had much experience with it.
Teens usually misuse the word love. When I was in High School, everyone claimed to love eachother. It was like, 95% of the relationship that went on in High School, the couple said they loved eachother right from the start, even though they didn't know a thing about eachother other than that they like to kiss viciously in the middle of the damn cafeteria while grossing everyone out. I have seen very few teen relationships that had real meaning to it--and most of those couples are still together today, to my knowledge.
Hi! I'm just curious, my daughter is almost 12, how much longer do I have till I have to deal with Teen Love and what's the best way to deal with it? I can't just keep her home 100% and not let her have any friends, thats just cruel. What do you guys and gals suggest?
let her learn by herself
Making a slow come back since 2008
True. Everybody's got to have their own experiences. You can (and should) offer advice, help guide her through it, etc., but in the end she's got to make the "decisions".
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