i forgot to say that in wait mode,the enemies will only wait for you if you are inside the magic,summon,item or enemy skill menus.if you are on the main screen (where attack and all the commands are) then wait mode does not apply.the enemies will not wait for you if you are on that screen.

so to answer your first question,if you are in wait mode,but doesnt enter the menus i mentioned above,the turn order taken is like the one in active mode.so whether you refresh or not,the order will be based on who gave the input first.im sorry for my mistake.

for your second question,yes,the enemy will wait for you to pick your action before it does anything.that is,if you enter the menus i said above.they will wait for days,if you want them to.