My HNMLS underwent some changes a while back. There's only one "mandatory" event now, which is on sundays. Every other day is voluntary. If you don't want to go to sky, don't go. If you don't want to kill jailors, don't. Just don't expect to get gear from sky if you don't attend, etc. I like it, there's no pressure to be on all the time, I can attend the events I actually enjoy and still be part of an hnmls.