Love is not a Game!!!!

[Roto13]

I don't get it.

Are you not real?

Am I not real?

Is there any fundamental difference in who we are because we interact through keyboards, monitors, and phone lines, rather than through face-to-face interaction?

Yes. A lot of people, myself included, express themselves very differently online than in person. Hell, I'm horribly boring on the phone.

[Miriel]

E-dating is stupid. It's for social outcasts and losers who are embarassed about their lack of ability to get a real girlfriend in real life, so they have to get one on the internet. Pretty pathetic if you ask me.

I hope you were kidding with this comment. Cause if you weren't, I think I'm going to completely disregard whatever you post from this point on. Cause that post is just too ridiculous to be allowed.

I didn't necessarily e-date but I did meet my boyfriend online. We didn't get into a relationship until after we met in person but we did talk for months and months before we met so that when we did meet, I felt that immediately comfortable with him.

I don't really think I believe in falling in love with someone before even meeting them. But that's just cause I think to love someone, you need to love all of them, and that includes the physical part of a person. I think you can love parts of a person, their personality, their voice, whatever. But to love someone completely (which is what I think love is) you need to meet them in person and actually have physical contact with them.

My boyfriend lives 350 miles away from me, and it's hard, but it's not impossible.

[Raistlin]

I don't really think I believe in falling in love with someone before even meeting them. But that's just cause I think to love someone, you need to love all of them, and that includes the physical part of a person. I think you can love parts of a person, their personality, their voice, whatever. But to love someone completely (which is what I think love is) you need to meet them in person and actually have physical contact with them.

What about, say, pictures or webcamming? You concede that it's possible to love someone's personality or voice (loving someone's voice? ) through an online relationship, but you can get just as good of a knowledge of their physical appearance via online as you can those other things. I agree that you can't love someone without even seeing them or really talking to them. But a person is first and foremost their mind - which you can definitely get in an online relationship. As long as you're also physically attracted to that person (which is obviously possible online ), why is love so unrealistic? I'm not saying one way or another, I'm just interested to see your response.

[Zeldy]

Just to summarize:



I don't know why I fail at e-love, maybe it's just technique

Me and Shauna got banned from Habbo

but on topic, a lad from America said if things were different and I liked him he'd fly all the way to England to be with me. That took me by suprise! But that was like 3 years ago ^_^

[Madonna]

Aren't you a loser that needs to get a life for coming on an Internet message board (as a newbie might I add) and denouncing something that doesn't hurt society, instead of just turning off the computer and walking outside, which would follow more logic than spending time in a chatroom?

Anyway, anyone want to cyber?

I'm all for that, Yamsy. You're the bestest Knightadmin to cyber with!

[Yamaneko]

:-*

Love is just that extra evolutionary step that makes us human and other species not human. It's primarily used as a device to ensure that a human couple look after the well-being of their young and pass their genes on to the next generation. At the lowest level, love is sex, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't indulge in the pleasurable chemical response it triggers within us.

[Gullick]

i've been wondering recently if E-dating is morally better than real dating, in chatrooms or whatever you are atrracted to the persons personality and not thier looks (true beauty is on the inside after all ). in real life being attrcated by a girls looks has got me into a bit of trouble and has caused quite a bit of pain. When im talking to a girl where there is an almost zero chance that i will see her in real life i kinda prefer to not see a real pic of her so that i can imagine her from the way she speaks.

-Gull-

['eMeRaLdFaYe']

It actually depends on the person, you know. I don't see any problem with Online Dating. My friend's cousin has been having a relationship with this guy in the internet, they met in real life, and they are still together after 1 and a half year. What's the matter with that? Besides, technology is much more better now than before. You can see what people look like with the use of webcam, camera pictures and other advanced devices.

There are times when it seems impossible, but anything can happen. So it actually depends.

[Dark Angel From Heaven]

I've been with my boyfriend since I was 12 years old and I am 18 years old now. In February, that was the first time I have met him and the only time I have met him.

If I am such a loser to the point where I am with this man, then so be it. But I was told once that I am capable of having any man I want (I'm sure not every man) because of my looks and my personality, but instead I choose someone who lives over a 1000 miles away. You can pretty much think what you want about me or anyone else who chooses to date this way, but it won't make my methods any less successful than yours.

im in love with a girl named kara...she lives in the UK. and i plane on seeing this women someday. i love her with all my heart and soul and i would die for her. shes the best thing that every happnd to me and i would not give her up for the world. so i understand......i think people can love on line....i mean, i love her and i would do any thing to be with her. tell the truth....i dont know what id do with out her. she makes every day worth living. she makes me happy....and im glad im with her. even tho we live far awey....are love has no bounds. i love her...so i understand. people can love on line.....

[boris no no]

From personal experience, I can say that long distance relationships are rediculous and pointless. Being in one makes you miserable. I hated it. Never again.

yeah, I never was misrable in mine but it seems so much harder and blah
Never again. I would rather get to know someone in person then over a monitor

[project X]

Online relationships aren't all bad. They can work out if the two people are serious and are willing to limit their contact to talking on the phone and online. Personally, I can't do that.

[Old Manus]

im in love with a girl named kara...she lives in the UK. and i plane on seeing this women someday. i love her with all my heart and soul and i would die for her. shes the best thing that every happnd to me and i would not give her up for the world. so i understand......i think people can love on line....i mean, i love her and i would do any thing to be with her. tell the truth....i dont know what id do with out her. she makes every day worth living. she makes me happy....and im glad im with her. even tho we live far awey....are love has no bounds. i love her...so i understand. people can love on line.....

That was just...brilliant

[Rostum]

I hope you were kidding with this comment. Cause if you weren't, I think I'm going to completely disregard whatever you post from this point on. Cause that post is just too ridiculous to be allowed.

I didn't necessarily e-date but I did meet my boyfriend online. We didn't get into a relationship until after we met in person but we did talk for months and months before we met so that when we did meet, I felt that immediately comfortable with him.

I don't really think I believe in falling in love with someone before even meeting them. But that's just cause I think to love someone, you need to love all of them, and that includes the physical part of a person. I think you can love parts of a person, their personality, their voice, whatever. But to love someone completely (which is what I think love is) you need to meet them in person and actually have physical contact with them.

Exact same thing that happened with my relationship actually! I basically got to know my significant other through the internet (knowing her from a friend of a friend), and then sparks happened once we started going out to the movies, or just hanging out. =)

Been going for three and a half years now, and I've moved interstate, and it's been really hard (only been a month).

I guess mine doesn't really count, because we've been together for three and a half years, in the flesh. And only recently turned into a long distance relationship... Of course I still think this will make us stronger, but I guess it's not the same situation.

Anyways, what I was posting to say is that I agree with Miriel.

[Dark Angel From Heaven]

That was just...brilliant

thnx man.....its true....i would do any thing for her. shes the best thing that ever happnd to me. i would give my life up for hers in a heart beat. kara means the world to me...and i cant see my life with out her in it. she makes it all werth wild. yea.....shes the best. lmao i cant stand not being with her..im always thinking about her. im madly in love with her and i have no idea what id do with out her.

[SammieBabe]

I have to agree with Omecle and Miriel. I met my husband online. We talked online for a little while and then talked on the phone. We also only lived 5 miles apart. After a few weeks of that we met and have been inseparable ever since. We're married and expecting our second child.
We spent our time online getting all the awkward questions out of the way. "What do you do? Are you in school? Siblings? Goals? blah blah blah..." So that way when we met, we already had stuff to talk about and we had none of the awkwardness...